What is a Rigger in BDSM?
A Rigger is a BDSM term used to describe someone who enjoys restraining their partner with rope bondage (sometimes referred […]
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What About Aftercare?
A reader emailed me to ask if I’d written anything about aftercare. Below is her email and my response. I’m
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7 Ways to Spot a Fake Dom (and Why You Should Avoid Them)
When dating as a submissive it is important to look out for Fake Doms. In this guide I’ll explain what
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Better Sex With Expert Communication
If there’s one tip I could give anyone in a relationship it would be to communicate more. I’m sure you’ve
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Not Every BDSM Scene Has to Be Extreme
As a beginner Dominant or Submissive you don’t have to make your BDSM scenes as intense as what is shown
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The Power of Repetition for Inducing a Submissive Mindset
I love a good massage. Not in a sexual way. But in a “wow this feels incredibly relaxing” kind of
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Better BDSM Scenes with the 5 Big Themes
As I thought back to all the BDSM scenes I’d been involved in, I realised there were five core themes
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What is Subspace?
Subspace is the feeling of being zoned out, floaty, melty, and spaced out felt by the Submissive after an intense
What’s Coming to Kinky Events in 2021?
Editor’s note: Since writing this article both The Community and my rope bondage course mentioned below have launched. I don’t
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I Asked My Readers What Being a Submissive Means To Them. Here’s What They Said
I love talking to other dominants and submissives about their experiences of D/s relationships. Be it beginners just starting out
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An Example of How I Structure My BDSM Scenes
Last night I had a great session with my sub. It had been a while since we’d seen each other
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So, You’re Interested in Attending a Sex Party…
So you and/or your partner are curious about what happens at a sex party and are tempted to attend one.
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5 Books Every Dominant Should Read for Healthier D/s Relationships
Being an INTJ I love theory. I would prefer to spend an entire day reading about the psychology of arousal
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Rope Bondage: A Beginner’s Guide to Shibari Bondage for BDSM
In this rope bondage tutorial for beginners you’ll learn the exactly what you need to know about Shibari bondage (Japanese
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How Do I Let My Dom Know I Want Tender, Sensual, and Sensitive Too?
A reader writes: So far, the “adventure” into the D/S lifestyle has been very good to us. But, I am
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Three Spectacularly Kinky Things I’m Excited About Doing Once The Pandemic is Over
Alright my little Kinksters. I don’t know about you, but coronavirus killed ALL my kinky plans for 2020. Not only
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Tied to a Chair and Made to Serve
We are still in the middle of the Coronavirus pandemic. Here in London we’re allowed to belong to one ‘support
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How to Talk to a Partner About Your Kinky Desires Without Fear (8 Proven Steps)
If you have kinky desires, want your partner to step up in the bedroom, or have a kink you are
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29 More Dirty Text Messages to Tease Your Submissive With
It’s the middle of the Coronavirus pandemic and you’re stuck indoors. Maybe you haven’t seen your sub all week and
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What is a Rope Bunny?
The term Rope Bunny is used to describe a person who enjoys being tied up with rope. This may be
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5 Basic Mistakes Beginner Dominants Make (and What to Do Instead)
When I began my journey towards being a dom, I didn’t really know how to judge if I was doing
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Rug Burn: A Fun Living Room BDSM Scene Idea for Dom Sub Couples (With Photos)
There’s something kinkier about sex outside the bedroom than in it. So when my new shag pile rug arrived for
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Getting Started with Anal Sex in a Dom Sub Relationship
If you have a desire to incorporate anal sex into your dom sub relationship then I’m here to help. Anal
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The Question All Beginner Dominants Should Ask Themselves
The one question a beginner dominant should ask themselves is, why am I doing this? If you are a dominant
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Pros and Cons of Buying Cheap Sex Toys From China
Buying sex toys from China can be worth it if you are looking for cheap bondage gear, dildos and other
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How Do I Get My Boyfriend To Be More Dominant?
Great question. If you want to make your boyfriend more dominant in bed then it starts with communication. Have you
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How Do I Find A Dominant Partner?
Finding a dominant partner is probably going to be your most difficult challenge. It’s difficult enough to find someone compatible
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My Dominant Asked Me to Do Something But I Don’t Want to. Am I a Bad Sub?
Absolutely not. Being a submissive does not mean you have to do everything your dominant tells you to. That would
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I Have Kink X. Am I normal?
What does normal even mean? Yes, chances are you are relatively normal, despite a kink you might have which isn’t
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Am I Just Playing at Being a Dom?
Sometimes I feel as though I am playing at being a dom instead of really being one. I don’t wear
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Experimenting with Rope Bondage
If you’ve read my other stuff, you’ll know that I’m not the type of hardcore rigger that gets super turned
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12 Things I’ve Learned After Having Multiple Threesomes (and Moresomes)
I’m by no means a sexual Olympian, but I’ve probably had a few more threesomes than the average person you’d
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How to be Submissive in a Relationship (8 Practical Steps)
So you want to be submissive in a relationship. I’m assuming this is as opposed to being submissive outside of
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