A Reader Asks: Am I a Fake Sub?
A reader wrote to me about her struggles to decide if she is a sub or not. Below is my …
A Short Perspective on Dom/sub Relationships
I recently had a question from a reader who is learning what it means to be a Dom. They wrote …
I Bought a Secret Spanking Bench (Unboxing and Build Photos)
I’ve discussed my desire to host kinky parties in previous articles. Now I’ve moved home I have the luxury of …
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The Fox Den: Victoriana Party Review
Victoriana by The Fox Den was the first kinky play party I attended after the lockdown ended here in London. …
Can a Submissive be Dominant in Everyday Life?
A reader asks: First, you ask if it is a thing for someone to be submissive in the bedroom but …
The Charmore Society Street Party (Plus 6 Munch Tips)
On Friday evening Moineau and I made our way to the Chardmore Society annual street party in Hoxton, London. It …
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How do I make my husband more confident and aggressive?
A reader sent in this email: My husband and I have recently discovered BDSM. It happened very suddenly and the …
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Conversations with a Dom: Episode 3 – Sex Parties
In this episode of Conversations with a Dom Jessica from Pleasure Island Parties and I discuss sex parties. Click play below to listen …
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How to Run an Inspection Scene
Atten-SHUN! Today I want to share with you the concept of inspection scenes and how to incorporate them into your …
How Do I Find a Good Dom?
Hello, Chief. I have been thinking a lot about being in a dominant/sub relationship. It is something that I have …
Experimenting with Higher Protocol Service Dynamics
Moineau looked at me questioningly from her kneeling position on the rug. I realised I hadn’t given her permission to …
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Conversations with a Dom: Episode 1 – Subspace
In this episode of Conversations with a Dom Moineau and I discuss subspace. We cover: What subspace feels like? [00:01:07] …
Conversations with a Dom: Episode 2 – Reader Questions
In this episode of Conversations with a Dom I answer questions from readers, including: Do Doms really care about/love their …
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What is a Rigger in BDSM?
A Rigger is a BDSM term used to describe someone who enjoys restraining their partner with rope bondage (sometimes referred …
What About Aftercare?
A reader emailed me to ask if I’d written anything about aftercare. Below is her email and my response. I’m …
7 Ways to Spot a Fake Dom (and Why You Should Avoid Them)
When dating as a submissive it is important to look out for Fake Doms. In this guide I’ll explain what …
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Better Sex With Expert Communication
If there’s one tip I could give anyone in a relationship it would be to communicate more. I’m sure you’ve …
Not Every BDSM Scene Has to Be Extreme
As a beginner Dominant or Submissive you don’t have to make your BDSM scenes as intense as what is shown …
The Power of Repetition for Inducing a Submissive Mindset
I love a good massage. Not in a sexual way. But in a “wow this feels incredibly relaxing” kind of …
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Better BDSM Scenes with the 5 Big Themes
As I thought back to all the BDSM scenes I’d been involved in, I realised there were five core themes …
What is Subspace?
Subspace is the feeling of being zoned out, floaty, melty, and spaced out felt by the Submissive after an intense …
What’s Coming to Kinky Events in 2021?
Editor’s note: Since writing this article both The Community and my rope bondage course mentioned below have launched. I don’t …
I Asked My Readers What Being a Submissive Means To Them. Here’s What They Said
I love talking to other dominants and submissives about their experiences of D/s relationships. Be it beginners just starting out …
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An Example of How I Structure My BDSM Scenes
Last night I had a great session with my sub. It had been a while since we’d seen each other …
So, You’re Interested in Attending a Sex Party…
So you and/or your partner are curious about what happens at a sex party and are tempted to attend one. …
5 Books Every Dominant Should Read for Healthier D/s Relationships
Being an INTJ I love theory. I would prefer to spend an entire day reading about the psychology of arousal …
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Learn Rope Bondage: A Beginner’s Guide to Rope Bondage for Dom Sub Dynamics
Hello and welcome to this beginners guide to rope bondage, aimed at those Dominants and submissives who want to experience …
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How Do I Let My Dom Know I Want Tender, Sensual, and Sensitive Too?
A reader writes: So far, the “adventure” into the D/S lifestyle has been very good to us. But, I am …
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Three Spectacularly Kinky Things I’m Excited About Doing Once The Pandemic is Over
Alright my little Kinksters. I don’t know about you, but coronavirus killed ALL my kinky plans for 2020. Not only …
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Tied to a Chair and Made to Serve
We are still in the middle of the Coronavirus pandemic. Here in London we’re allowed to belong to one ‘support …
How to Talk to a Partner About Your Kinky Desires Without Fear (8 Proven Steps)
If you have kinky desires, want your partner to step up in the bedroom, or have a kink you are …
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29 More Dirty Text Messages to Tease Your Submissive With
It’s the middle of the Coronavirus pandemic and you’re stuck indoors. Maybe you haven’t seen your sub all week and …
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What is a Rope Bunny?
The term Rope Bunny is used to describe a person who enjoys being tied up with rope. This may be …