How do I make my husband more confident and aggressive?
A reader sent in this email: My husband and I have recently discovered BDSM. It happened very suddenly and the …
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Conversations with a Dom: Episode 3 – Sex Parties
In this episode of Conversations with a Dom Jessica from Pleasure Island Parties and I discuss sex parties. Click play below to listen …
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How to Run an Inspection Scene
Atten-SHUN! Today I want to share with you the concept of inspection scenes and how to incorporate them into your …
How Do I Find a Good Dom?
Hello, Chief. I have been thinking a lot about being in a dominant/sub relationship. It is something that I have …
Experimenting with Higher Protocol Service Dynamics
Moineau looked at me questioningly from her kneeling position on the rug. I realised I hadn’t given her permission to …
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Conversations with a Dom: Episode 1 – Subspace
In this episode of Conversations with a Dom Moineau and I discuss subspace. We cover: What subspace feels like? [00:01:07] …
Conversations with a Dom: Episode 2 – Reader Questions
In this episode of Conversations with a Dom I answer questions from readers, including: Do Doms really care about/love their …
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What is a Rigger in BDSM?
A Rigger is a BDSM term used to describe someone who enjoys restraining their partner with rope bondage (sometimes referred …
What About Aftercare?
A reader emailed me to ask if I’d written anything about aftercare. Below is her email and my response. I’m …
7 Ways to Spot a Fake Dom (and Why You Should Avoid Them)
When dating as a submissive it is important to look out for Fake Doms. In this guide I’ll explain what …
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Better Sex With Expert Communication
If there’s one tip I could give anyone in a relationship it would be to communicate more. I’m sure you’ve …
Not Every BDSM Scene Has to Be Extreme
As a beginner Dominant or Submissive you don’t have to make your BDSM scenes as intense as what is shown …
The Power of Repetition for Inducing a Submissive Mindset
I love a good massage. Not in a sexual way. But in a “wow this feels incredibly relaxing” kind of …
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Better BDSM Scenes with the 5 Big Themes
As I thought back to all the BDSM scenes I’d been involved in, I realised there were five core themes …
What is Subspace?
Subspace is the feeling of being zoned out, floaty, melty, and spaced out felt by the Submissive after an intense …
What’s Coming to Kinky Events in 2021?
Editor’s note: Since writing this article both The Community and my rope bondage course mentioned below have launched. I don’t …
I Asked My Readers What Being a Submissive Means To Them. Here’s What They Said
I love talking to other dominants and submissives about their experiences of D/s relationships. Be it beginners just starting out …
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An Example of How I Structure My BDSM Scenes
Last night I had a great session with my sub. It had been a while since we’d seen each other …
So, You’re Interested in Attending a Sex Party…
So you and/or your partner are curious about what happens at a sex party and are tempted to attend one. …
5 Books Every Dominant Should Read for Healthier D/s Relationships
Being an INTJ I love theory. I would prefer to spend an entire day reading about the psychology of arousal …
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Learn Rope Bondage: A Beginner’s Guide to Rope Bondage for Dom Sub Dynamics
Hello and welcome to this beginners guide to rope bondage, aimed at those Dominants and submissives who want to experience …
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How Do I Let My Dom Know I Want Tender, Sensual, and Sensitive Too?
A reader writes: So far, the “adventure” into the D/S lifestyle has been very good to us. But, I am …
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Three Spectacularly Kinky Things I’m Excited About Doing Once The Pandemic is Over
Alright my little Kinksters. I don’t know about you, but coronavirus killed ALL my kinky plans for 2020. Not only …
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Tied to a Chair and Made to Serve
We are still in the middle of the Coronavirus pandemic. Here in London we’re allowed to belong to one ‘support …
How to Talk to a Partner About Your Kinky Desires Without Fear (8 Proven Steps)
If you have kinky desires, want your partner to step up in the bedroom, or have a kink you are …
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29 More Dirty Text Messages to Tease Your Submissive With
It’s the middle of the Coronavirus pandemic and you’re stuck indoors. Maybe you haven’t seen your sub all week and …
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What is a Rope Bunny?
The term Rope Bunny is used to describe a person who enjoys being tied up with rope. This may be …
5 Basic Mistakes Beginner Dominants Make (and What to Do Instead)
When I began my journey towards being a dom, I didn’t really know how to judge if I was doing …
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Rug Burn: A Fun Living Room BDSM Scene Idea for Dom Sub Couples (With Photos)
There’s something kinkier about sex outside the bedroom than in it. So when my new shag pile rug arrived for …
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Getting Started with Anal Sex in a Dom Sub Relationship
If you have a desire to incorporate anal sex into your dom sub relationship then I’m here to help. Anal …
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The Question All Beginner Dominants Should Ask Themselves
The one question a beginner dominant should ask themselves is, why am I doing this? If you are a dominant …
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Pros and Cons of Buying Cheap Sex Toys From China
Buying sex toys from China can be worth it if you are looking for cheap bondage gear, dildos and other …
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How Do I Get My Boyfriend To Be More Dominant?
Great question. If you want to make your boyfriend more dominant in bed then it starts with communication. Have you …