20 Popular BDSM Guides

DDlg stands for Daddy Dom/little girl. It’s a form of BDSM roleplay where two adults consent to talking on roles with unequal power. One person acts as a caregiver (the Daddy Dom) and the other acts as ‘the little’ – someone who wants to receive care and affection (the little girl). DDlg is often wr…

Submissive punishments are a tenant of BDSM. But what makes a good punishment? When does a sub deserve to be punished? And what can go wrong? In this complete guide to submissive punishments, I’ll reveal all. What are submissive punishments? A punishment in a BDSM relationship is dished out by the d…

I get asked why a woman would want to be a submissive in a dominant submissive relationship often. Whenever I bring up the subject of being a Dom, the person I’m speaking to will ask me what’s in it for the woman? Why would they agree to do what I ask them? Why would they do the chores? Why would th…

Coming up with submissive rules for your sub to follow is a really fun part of a dom sub relationship. But if you’re new to the BDSM scene you might not know the types of rules to set or even what a list of basic sub rules to follow should be. In this submissive rules guide I’ll help you understand:…

A sex menu is something people haven’t heard of, and if they have, haven’t got around to completing one. After reading this guide, I hope you’ll consider filling one in. I promise it’ll help you have even hotter, more intense sex, and spice up your dom/sub relationship. What is a sex menu? A sex men…

Interested in how to be a better submissive slave? Want a Master of your own (who also owns you)? If you’re reading this article then you probably already find the idea of being a slave appealing. Perhaps you’ve read some erotic fiction or watched slave porn, and you’re interested in the concept. Ma…

Key takeaways I’ll admit that I hadn’t heard the term Pleasure Dom until fairly recently. Typically when I hear the word Dominant my mind jumps to the more classic styles of dominance that exist (at least it used to): In reality, the term Pleasure Dom describes my dominant style more appropriately t…

Being collared sexually is when a Dom (dominant) collars a sub (submissive) to signal that the sub belongs to the Dom in some way. To what extent depends on agreed upon boundaries and the type of submissive you want to be in your BDSM relationship. Collaring someone sexually is a BDSM practise done…

A BDSM contract is a document detailing the expectations two people in a dominant and submissive relationship have of each other. It is mostly the dominant partner providing clear instructions to the submissive, but can include things the sub should expect from the Dom. It isn’t legally binding but…

I was disappointed at the quality of BDSM training I saw online. I wanted more in-depth information. I wanted it to be practical. And I didn’t want it to be overly pornographic. I wanted something that would have helped me when I started out in this world. That’s why I created two BDSM trainings in…

So you want to be submissive in a relationship. I’m assuming this is as opposed to being submissive outside of a relationship, such as at work or with friends. And that’s cool. Many subs I know are ballbusters in everyday life, but when they’re with their partner they want to be thrown onto the bed…

*TRIGGER WARNING* On this episode of Conversations with a Dom Chief and Moineau answer a reader’s question about DDlg. What is it? How do we practice it in our relationship? And how might you go about introducing it into your relationship? We discuss psychology, why it turns us on, and how to talk t…

So you want to know everything there is to know about BDSM slave training… You’ve come to the right place, my friend. Sit down, strap in, and let me walk you through what I’ve learned in the past few years about owning and training a submissive slave. I recommend reading this slave training manual…

Want to build your sexual confidence? Want to blow her mind and give her earth shattering orgasms? Want to make sure she remembers you for years to come? Then you need to learn to dominate a woman in bed. You’ve come to the right place. I’m going to share some of my secrets to dominating her mentall…

It’s the middle of the Coronavirus pandemic and you’re stuck indoors. Maybe you haven’t seen your sub all week and you’re feeling frisky. Maybe you just want to turn your girlfriend on from across the room as she works away busily on that sales presentation. Either way, you need some inspiration on…

The following is an article submitted to Kinky Events by readers Olivia and Charlie (names changed for anonymity). Based in London, the married couple spent four years transforming their relationship from a vanilla foundation into a D/s dynamic. Their journey facilitated the exploration of shared de…

I’ve collated some of the more popular questions about Dom sub relationships below. Whilst reading, remember that the stereotypical image of a woman wearing PVC chained to the wall whilst her Dom wearing leather and waving a flogger around is only one aspect of domination and submission. Dom and sub…

Victoriana by The Fox Den was the first kinky play party I attended after the lockdown ended here in London. I had purchased tickets a couple of months earlier after discovering The Fox Den via some means (I can’t remember exactly where, but probably Fetlife.com). All members of the Fox Den who aren…

You know how your body reacts to just the thought of being dominated by a strong, powerful man? It begins as an internal contraction and spirals outward, encompassing your entire being. It creates a visceral ache and need that demands expression through active surrender. It’s a common reaction from…

What’s it like as a couple attending a fetish party such as Klub Verboten? Is it hardcore? What’s the atmosphere? Do people have sex? Read on to find out.