20 Popular BDSM Guides
The most popular guides to BDSM, powerplay, and Dom sub dynamics for beginners on the Kinky Events website.
The articles below are the 20 most read on this website in the past 30 days. They reflect the most popular BDSM guides to read as someone looking to venture into the world of dominance and submission.
- Bondage, Discipline & Training, Discipline, Master/Slave, Roles & Responsibilities, Sadism & MasochismSubmissive Punishments: How to Punish Your sub Like a Pro Dom
Submissive punishments are a tenant of BDSM. But what makes a good punishment? When does a sub deserve to be punished? And what can go wrong? In this complete guide to submissive punishments, I’ll reveal all. What are submissive punishments? A punishment in a BDSM relationship is dished out by the d…
- Bondage, Discipline & Training, Discipline, Master/Slave, Roles & Responsibilities, Sadism & MasochismSlave Training: A Master’s Complete Guide to Training His Submissive
So you want to know everything there is to know about BDSM slave training… You’ve come to the right place, my friend. Sit down, strap in, and let me walk you through what I’ve learned in the past few years about owning and training a submissive slave. I recommend reading this slave training manual…
- 7 Dominant Commands You Can Give Your Sub By Text Message
Domming someone remotely isn’t easy. Sometimes you just can’t think of any new ideas of what to text them. This list should help you out. I’ve tried all of these messages and had great results. Before you dominate your girl via text I must preface this article by saying you will only get a positive…
- 29 More Dirty Text Messages to Tease Your Submissive With
It’s the middle of the Coronavirus pandemic and you’re stuck indoors. Maybe you haven’t seen your sub all week and you’re feeling frisky. Maybe you just want to turn your girlfriend on from across the room as she works away busily on that sales presentation. Either way, you need some inspiration on…
- 24 Dirty Things to Say to Your Boyfriend During Sex to Make Him More Dominant
Does your boyfriend or husband need a little encouragement to unleash his inner dominant in the bedroom? The 24 dirty talk phrases below are short and sweet, but sure to get his blood pumping. They all have a Dom/sub theme to them. They encourage him to be rougher, more forceful, more dominant, AND…
- How to Be a Dom: A Beginner’s Guide
If you have recently discovered the world of BDSM and kink, and want to know how to be a dom then this guide is for you. And not just any dom, but I’m going to teach you how to be a good dom. In this guide, I’m going to walk you through all the things you need to know if you are serious about being…
- Submissive Rules: A Complete Guide to Setting Rules for Subs (with Examples)
Coming up with submissive rules for your sub to follow is a really fun part of a dom sub relationship. But if you’re new to the BDSM scene you might not know the types of rules to set or even what a list of basic sub rules to follow should be. In this submissive rules guide I’ll help you understand:…
- How to Dominate a Woman in the Bedroom: A Beginner’s Guide with Pictures (NSFW)
Want to build your sexual confidence? Want to blow her mind and give her earth shattering orgasms? Want to make sure she remembers you for years to come? Then you need to learn to dominate a woman in bed. You’ve come to the right place. I’m going to share some of my secrets to dominating her mentall…
- How to Be a Bratty Submissive (6 Guaranteed Ways to Rile Up Your Dominant)
Ah, the bratty submissive… The brat submissive is one of those I both love and hate as a Dom. They are unruly, demanding, pushy, disobedient and often leave a Dominant feeling quite exasperated by all the bratty antics! Brats need constant attention to prevent them from acting out and require…
- Why Would a Woman Want to Be a Submissive?
I get asked why a woman would want to be a submissive in a dominant submissive relationship often. Whenever I bring up the subject of being a Dom, the person I’m speaking to will ask me what’s in it for the woman? Why would they agree to do what I ask them? Why would they do the chores? Why would th…
- Sex Menu: A Beginner’s Guide for Doms and Subs
A sex menu is something people haven’t heard of, and if they have, haven’t got around to completing one. After reading this guide, I hope you’ll consider filling one in. I promise it’ll help you have even hotter, more intense sex, and spice up your dom/sub relationship. What is a sex menu? A sex men…
- 5 Ways to Make Your Boyfriend More Dominant in Bed
He’s timid in bed but you want the good stuff. How do you make your boyfriend more dominant in the bedroom, and your relationship in general? I grew up as the typical polite young man. I didn’t even believe women enjoyed and wanted sex, let alone to be dominated in bed. So imagine my surprise when a…
- An Example of How I Structure My BDSM Scenes
Last night I had a great session with my sub. It had been a while since we’d seen each other (about ten days) due to the Coronavirus lockdown restrictions in London. Today I wanted to go through some of the things I think about when planning what to do in a scene and why. I hope reading the descript…
- Total Power Exchange: An Overview of the TPE Kink
Every heard the phrase Total Power Exchange in the context of BDSM and wondered what it meant? Or someone mentioning they have a ‘TPE kink’? What exactly does that mean, and why would someone want one? That’s what I’m going to cover in this article. Total power exchange overview What is total power…
- BDSM for Beginners: Everything You Need to Know to Get Started
Welcome to the fascinating world of BDSM, a place where fantasy meets reality, boundaries are explored with respect, and consent reigns supreme. If you’re stepping into this world for the first time, you might feel a mix of excitement and apprehension. Rest assured, you’re in good company, and this…
- 9 Responsibilities of a Dominant in a Dom Sub Relationship
The primary responsibilities of a dominant are to assist with creating a consensual power dynamic during sex, and perhaps also outside the bedroom, in order to create an experience where his partner is able to relax into her submission and experience all the pleasure that comes with that. This may b…
- BDSM Contracts: A Beginner’s Guide
A BDSM contract is a document detailing the expectations two people in a dominant and submissive relationship have of each other. It is mostly the dominant partner providing clear instructions to the submissive, but can include things the sub should expect from the Dom. It isn’t legally binding but…
- Rope Bondage: A Beginner’s Guide to Shibari Bondage for BDSM
In this rope bondage tutorial for beginners you’ll learn the exactly what you need to know about Shibari bondage (Japanese bondage), including the best rope for bondage, the best bondage rope ties and BDSM knots. It’s the best guide aimed at those Dominants and submissives who want to experience the…
- 9 Creative Submissive Training and Kinky Scene Ideas
Like any relationship, things get stale over time and need a refresh. But coming up with kinky ideas to do isn’t easy, especially if this whole Dom sub thing is new to you. Submissive scene ideas Below are some BDSM activities and adventures my sub and I have been on, either at public play partiers…
- How to Run an Inspection Scene
Atten-SHUN! Today I want to share with you the concept of inspection scenes and how to incorporate them into your D/s relationship. I believe many couples will get a kick out of the formality inspections bring to a dynamic. They’re a perfect way to create a power differential outside of sexual play…