20 Popular BDSM Guides
The most popular guides to BDSM, powerplay, and Dom sub dynamics for beginners on the Kinky Events website.
The articles below are the 20 most read on this website in the past 30 days. They reflect the most popular BDSM guides to read as someone looking to venture into the world of dominance and submission.
- Cockwarming: A Beginner’s Guide to the Cock Warming Kink
Cockwarming. You’ve seen it mentioned on an obscure BDSM forum and are intrigued. What is it? Who practises it? Is it something you should be doing in your Dom and sub relationship? I must confess I’d never heard of cockwarming (sometimes spelt ‘cock warming’) before I met my sub. She brought it up…
- 29 More Dirty Text Messages to Tease Your Submissive With
It’s the middle of the Coronavirus pandemic and you’re stuck indoors. Maybe you haven’t seen your sub all week and you’re feeling frisky. Maybe you just want to turn your girlfriend on from across the room as she works away busily on that sales presentation. Either way, you need some inspiration on…
- What Being a Dominant REALLY Means
When my partners first told me they were submissive and wanted me to dominate them, I didn’t know what they meant. What does it REALLY mean to be a Dominant in a D/s dynamic? Your first challenge as a beginner Dom is making sure you understand what good and bad looks like. After that you can start t…
- How to Be a Dom: A Beginner’s Guide
If you have recently discovered the world of BDSM and kink, and want to know how to be a dom then this guide is for you. And not just any dom, but I’m going to teach you how to be a good dom. In this guide, I’m going to walk you through all the things you need to know if you are serious about being…
- Submissive Rules: A Complete Guide to Setting Rules for Subs (with Examples)
Coming up with submissive rules for your sub to follow is a really fun part of a dom sub relationship. But if you’re new to the BDSM scene you might not know the types of rules to set or even what a list of basic sub rules to follow should be. In this submissive rules guide I’ll help you understand:…
- From Bland Hookups to 6-Hour BDSM Session: Woman Ditches Vanilla Dating for Dominant Bliss
The following is a submission by a female reader based on London who emailed to share her first experience of D/s. Having felt unfulfilled in her sex life for some time, and intrigued by scenes depicted in Game of Thrones, she stumbled across the Kinky Events website and, having decided D/s was some…
- 7 Dominant Commands You Can Give Your Sub By Text Message
Domming someone remotely isn’t easy. Sometimes you just can’t think of any new ideas of what to text them. This list should help you out. I’ve tried all of these messages and had great results. Before you dominate your girl via text I must preface this article by saying you will only get a positive…
- I Bought a Secret Spanking Bench (Unboxing and Build Photos)
I’ve discussed my desire to host kinky parties in previous articles. Now I’ve moved home I have the luxury of a study that can be turned into a kinky BDSM play-room at night. But…I obviously don’t want blatantly obvious sex furniture laying around for someone to stumble upon (ie my parents if they…
- How to Be a Good Submissive Slave
Interested in how to be a better submissive slave? Want a Master of your own (who also owns you)? If you’re reading this article then you probably already find the idea of being a slave appealing. Perhaps you’ve read some erotic fiction or watched slave porn, and you’re interested in the concept. Ma…
- Sex Menu: A Beginner’s Guide for Doms and Subs
A sex menu is something people haven’t heard of, and if they have, haven’t got around to completing one. After reading this guide, I hope you’ll consider filling one in. I promise it’ll help you have even hotter, more intense sex, and spice up your dom/sub relationship. What is a sex menu? A sex men…
- Bondage, Discipline & Training, Discipline, Master/Slave, Roles & Responsibilities, Sadism & MasochismSlave Training: A Master’s Complete Guide to Training His Submissive
So you want to know everything there is to know about BDSM slave training… You’ve come to the right place, my friend. Sit down, strap in, and let me walk you through what I’ve learned in the past few years about owning and training a submissive slave. I recommend reading this slave training manual…
- Bondage, Discipline & Training, Discipline, Master/Slave, Roles & Responsibilities, Sadism & MasochismSubmissive Punishments: How to Punish Your sub Like a Pro Dom
Submissive punishments are a tenant of BDSM. But what makes a good punishment? When does a sub deserve to be punished? And what can go wrong? In this complete guide to submissive punishments, I’ll reveal all. What are submissive punishments? A punishment in a BDSM relationship is dished out by the d…
- 24 Dirty Things to Say to Your Boyfriend During Sex to Make Him More Dominant
Does your boyfriend or husband need a little encouragement to unleash his inner dominant in the bedroom? The 24 dirty talk phrases below are short and sweet, but sure to get his blood pumping. They all have a Dom/sub theme to them. They encourage him to be rougher, more forceful, more dominant, AND…
- An Example of How I Structure My BDSM Scenes
Last night I had a great session with my sub. It had been a while since we’d seen each other (about ten days) due to the Coronavirus lockdown restrictions in London. Today I wanted to go through some of the things I think about when planning what to do in a scene and why. I hope reading the descript…
- Collared Sexually: What does it mean when a Dom collars a sub?
Being collared sexually is when a Dom (dominant) collars a sub (submissive) to signal that the sub belongs to the Dom in some way. To what extent depends on agreed upon boundaries and the type of submissive you want to be in your BDSM relationship. Collaring someone sexually is a BDSM practise done…
- How to Talk to a Partner About Your Kinky Desires Without Fear (8 Proven Steps)
If you have kinky desires, want your partner to step up in the bedroom, or have a kink you are too embarrassed to discuss, then these 8 steps will help. Communication is the secret sauce in kinky sex. Being able to discuss sex openly and without judgement is THE golden ticket to a more fulfilling se…
- The Pleasure Dom (what it is and how to be one)
Key takeaways I’ll admit that I hadn’t heard the term Pleasure Dom until fairly recently. Typically when I hear the word Dominant my mind jumps to the more classic styles of dominance that exist (at least it used to): In reality, the term Pleasure Dom describes my dominant style more appropriately t…
- Why do guys like anal sex so much?
First up, the obligatory “not all guys” is needed. Some guys don’t enjoy anal sex, and some do. Some women don’t enjoy anal sex and some do. You should feel under no pressure to try anal sex from your partner or yourself. Only do it if you want to and reckon you’ll enjoy it. In The Truth About Anal…
- 8 things you should know before visiting a professional Dominatrix
Thinking about visiting a professional Dominatrix? What’s it really like? Diving into the world of professional BDSM isn’t just about exploring your kinks; it’s an adventure into self-discovery and pushing boundaries. In this guide to visiting a professional Dominatrix we talk to Tom, who has first…
- What is impact play? (and should you try it…)
Impact play is a form of BDSM that involves consensual striking or hitting of the body for pleasure. It can range from light spanking to more intense forms like flogging or caning. Impact play is…well…physically impacting something onto someone. Impact play is not about causing harm. It’s about expl…