20 Popular BDSM Guides

Coming up with submissive rules for your sub to follow is a really fun part of a dom sub relationship. But if you’re new to the BDSM scene you might not know the types of rules to set or even what a list of basic sub rules to follow should be. In this submissive rules guide I’ll help you understand:…

The following is an article submitted to Kinky Events by readers Olivia and Charlie (names changed for anonymity). Based in London, the married couple spent four years transforming their relationship from a vanilla foundation into a D/s dynamic. Their journey facilitated the exploration of shared de…

The world of BDSM and public kink is an exhilarating and often controversial realm that is continually subject to debate and exploration. From humorous incidents involving gimp suits at Shakespearean plays to the potential risks of engaging in public play, our latest podcast episode dives into these…

It’s the middle of the Coronavirus pandemic and you’re stuck indoors. Maybe you haven’t seen your sub all week and you’re feeling frisky. Maybe you just want to turn your girlfriend on from across the room as she works away busily on that sales presentation. Either way, you need some inspiration on…

Submissive punishments are a tenant of BDSM. But what makes a good punishment? When does a sub deserve to be punished? And what can go wrong? In this complete guide to submissive punishments, I’ll reveal all. What are submissive punishments? A punishment in a BDSM relationship is dished out by the d…

A day collar is a collar designed to be worn by a sub during the day, outside of the house, without drawing too much attention to it. They are typically worn after a Dom collars his submissive once they enter a BDSM relationship. Why do subs wear day collars? Day collars are designed to be discreet…

I was disappointed at the quality of BDSM training I saw online. I wanted more in-depth information. I wanted it to be practical. And I didn’t want it to be overly pornographic. I wanted something that would have helped me when I started out in this world. That’s why I created two BDSM trainings in…

Domming someone remotely isn’t easy. Sometimes you just can’t think of any new ideas of what to text them. This list should help you out. I’ve tried all of these messages and had great results. Before you dominate your girl via text I must preface this article by saying you will only get a positive…

Want to reward your sub for being good with a super intense orgasm? In this guide for a dominant man in a D/s relationship with a submissive woman, I’ll explain some techniques, and give a brief description of how I would run a simple BDSM scene using all of these factors. Four factors for an intens…

I love a good massage.  Not in a sexual way.  But in a “wow this feels incredibly relaxing” kind of way.  During a great massage the therapist does two things incredibly well.  Firstly they will always have one hand in contact with your body as they move around the table.  The pu…

I want to share one exercise you can use to have kinkier fun. Don’t dismiss it due to it’s simplicity. It can be transformative if done correctly. The exercise How this works The feelings you write down are what your subconscious yearns for. As I talk about in my book Sensational Scenes, it’s not ab…

Key takeaways I’ll admit that I hadn’t heard the term Pleasure Dom until fairly recently. Typically when I hear the word Dominant my mind jumps to the more classic styles of dominance that exist (at least it used to): In reality, the term Pleasure Dom describes my dominant style more appropriately t…

I get asked why a woman would want to be a submissive in a dominant submissive relationship often. Whenever I bring up the subject of being a Dom, the person I’m speaking to will ask me what’s in it for the woman? Why would they agree to do what I ask them? Why would they do the chores? Why would th…

When dating as a submissive it is important to look out for Fake Doms. In this guide I’ll explain what a Fake Dom is, why they’re bad news, and how to spot them in the wild. What is a Fake Dom? Fake Dom is the term given to a person who claims to be a Dominant when in reality they have no clue what…

First up, the obligatory “not all guys” is needed. Some guys don’t enjoy anal sex, and some do. Some women don’t enjoy anal sex and some do. You should feel under no pressure to try anal sex from your partner or yourself. Only do it if you want to and reckon you’ll enjoy it. In The Truth About Anal…

What is a sub? It’s short for submissive and describes a person (male or female) who exhibits submissive personality traits in a BDSM scene or relationship, such as empathy, agreeableness, openness and a desire to relinquish control. A sub chooses to act as the bottom, allowing the dominant to lead…

In this episode of Conversations with a Dom I answer questions from readers, including: Do Doms really care about/love their subs? [00:00:42]What would be a good punishment for talking back or attitude? [00:02:53]Do you take enjoyment in punishments? [00:14:14]What is one thing that turns on a Dom?…

In this episode of Conversations with a Dom, the podcast all about dominants and submissive’s, Moineau asks Chief some personal questions about kink and BDSM. The questions were found on a blog called ‘On A Magic Carpet Ride’. Listen to the episode below (and subscribe on Spotify for future episode…

You’ve been thinking about exploring your submissive side, and the idea excites you. But every time you consider talking to your partner about it, a million questions pop up: What if they don’t understand? What if it’s too risky? Where do we even start? The world of Dom/sub dynamics can feel like a…

So you’re a beginner dominant and want to know what the hell to do. Starting out can be confusing and overwhelming. I sure didn’t really know all the lingo or how I was supposed to act. Was I meant to go to Dom school and get some sort of certificate before I could call myself an official dominant?…