20 Popular BDSM Guides

Coming up with submissive rules for your sub to follow is a really fun part of a dom sub relationship. But if you’re new to the BDSM scene you might not know the types of rules to set or even what a list of basic sub rules to follow should be. In this submissive rules guide I’ll help you understand:…

A sex menu is something people haven’t heard of, and if they have, haven’t got around to completing one. After reading this guide, I hope you’ll consider filling one in. I promise it’ll help you have even hotter, more intense sex, and spice up your dom/sub relationship. What is a sex menu? A sex men…

Does your boyfriend or husband need a little encouragement to unleash his inner dominant in the bedroom? The 24 dirty talk phrases below are short and sweet, but sure to get his blood pumping. They all have a Dom/sub theme to them. They encourage him to be rougher, more forceful, more dominant, AND…

Submissive punishments are a tenant of BDSM. But what makes a good punishment? When does a sub deserve to be punished? And what can go wrong? In this complete guide to submissive punishments, I’ll reveal all. What are submissive punishments? A punishment in a BDSM relationship is dished out by the d…

Being a DDLG (Daddy Dom, Little Girl) type of Dom I’m not into hardcore, chunky, metallic slave BDSM collars. The type of submissive collar I prefer are softer, smaller and more feminine in nature. That said, I do own several types of BDSM collars and use them at different times, depending upon my m…

So you’ve got yourself into a Daddy Dom, Little Girl relationship. Congratulations. Now you need some DDLG rules to keep everything on track. Caring for your little is one of life’s great pleasures. And you know that as well as love, they crave discipline and structure from their Daddy. Because you…

A reader recently emailed me this (some parts changed to keep it anonymous): As a new dom my personal challenge has been trying to find an ethical way to introduce D/s into a long-standing (and very healthy) vanilla relationship. The concept can be pretty intimidating from the would-be submissive’s…

So you want to know everything there is to know about BDSM slave training… You’ve come to the right place, my friend. Sit down, strap in, and let me walk you through what I’ve learned in the past few years about owning and training a submissive slave. I recommend reading this slave training manual…

Looking to spice up your sex life? Bed restraints are a great way to do just that. They are pieces of BDSM kit no dominant should be without. In this guide, we’ll tell you how they can be used, and some things to look out for when you want to buy under bed restraints for your home because they aren’…

Domming someone remotely isn’t easy. Sometimes you just can’t think of any new ideas of what to text them. This list should help you out. I’ve tried all of these messages and had great results. Before you dominate your girl via text I must preface this article by saying you will only get a positive…

She feels me stirring on a Saturday morning. She’s been awake for a while, waiting. Once she knows I’m semi-conscious, she politely whispers in my ear “Daddy, may I suck your cock?”. “Of course you may” I respond groggily. She slides down under the duvet as I lay on my back, eyes closed. Her fingert…

First up, the obligatory “not all guys” is needed. Some guys don’t enjoy anal sex, and some do. Some women don’t enjoy anal sex and some do. You should feel under no pressure to try anal sex from your partner or yourself. Only do it if you want to and reckon you’ll enjoy it. In The Truth About Anal…

Buying sex toys from China can be worth it if you are looking for cheap bondage gear, dildos and other BDSM equipment. But you need to be aware of sizing issues, material quality and delivery speeds. I noticed a little package had dropped through my letterbox. I recognised the light grey, non-descri…

As I thought back to all the BDSM scenes I’d been involved in, I realised there were five core themes that ran through all of them:  Whenever I run a scene I make sure to pick one of these as the main theme. The scene theme dictates the overall feel and goal of the scene.  The 5 BDSM scene…

What does it mean when you see a woman wearing a choker around their neck? Does it automatically mean they are submissive and their Dom has collared them? Not at all. A choker can be worn as a fashion item (they were all the rage a couple of years ago) or they may be a form of day collar. Whenever I…

The term Rope Bunny is used to describe a person who enjoys being tied up with rope. This may be for a variety of reasons, as described below. Just because someone is a rope bunny does not necessarily mean they are a submissive. They may just be a ‘bottom’. But due to the language this is often the…

So you think you want to be a submissive, and you have found someone to be your Dominant. Perhaps the Dominant is your existing partner or someone you hit things off with at a kinky event.  Congratulations! I know it can be very exhilarating.  However, there are some invaluable first steps…

Are you in a DDLG (Daddy Dom, Little Girl) relationship? Or are you a little who wants some cute DDLG activities to help get you into littlespace (like subspace, but for littles!)? When you’ve come to the right place! Here are some fun DDLG activities you can try. Some of them you’ll need a Daddy/Ca…

It’s the middle of the Coronavirus pandemic and you’re stuck indoors. Maybe you haven’t seen your sub all week and you’re feeling frisky. Maybe you just want to turn your girlfriend on from across the room as she works away busily on that sales presentation. Either way, you need some inspiration on…

In this episode of Conversations with a Dom Moineau and I discuss subspace. We cover: What subspace feels like? [00:01:07]Are there levels of subspace? [00:06:40]The two components of subspace [00:11:10]What activities put you into subspace? [00:13:32]Subspace and consent [00:16:30] Click play below…