20 Popular BDSM Guides

It’s the middle of the Coronavirus pandemic and you’re stuck indoors. Maybe you haven’t seen your sub all week and you’re feeling frisky. Maybe you just want to turn your girlfriend on from across the room as she works away busily on that sales presentation. Either way, you need some inspiration on…

Cockwarming. You’ve seen it mentioned on an obscure BDSM forum and are intrigued. What is it? Who practises it? Is it something you should be doing in your Dom and sub relationship? I must confess I’d never heard of cockwarming (sometimes spelt ‘cock warming’) before I met my sub. She brought it up…

If you have recently discovered the world of BDSM and kink, and want to know how to be a dom then this guide is for you. And not just any dom, but I’m going to teach you how to be a good dom. In this guide, I’m going to walk you through all the things you need to know if you are serious about being…

Coming up with submissive rules for your sub to follow is a really fun part of a dom sub relationship. But if you’re new to the BDSM scene you might not know the types of rules to set or even what a list of basic sub rules to follow should be. In this submissive rules guide I’ll help you understand:…

Domming someone remotely isn’t easy. Sometimes you just can’t think of any new ideas of what to text them. This list should help you out. I’ve tried all of these messages and had great results. Before you dominate your girl via text I must preface this article by saying you will only get a positive…

DDlg stands for Daddy Dom/little girl. It’s a form of BDSM roleplay where two adults consent to talking on roles with unequal power. One person acts as a caregiver (the Daddy Dom) and the other acts as ‘the little’ – someone who wants to receive care and affection (the little girl). DDlg is often wr…

Want to build your sexual confidence? Want to blow her mind and give her earth shattering orgasms? Want to make sure she remembers you for years to come? Then you need to learn to dominate a woman in bed. You’ve come to the right place. I’m going to share some of my secrets to dominating her mentall…

Submissive punishments are a tenant of BDSM. But what makes a good punishment? When does a sub deserve to be punished? And what can go wrong? In this complete guide to submissive punishments, I’ll reveal all. What are submissive punishments? A punishment in a BDSM relationship is dished out by the d…

So you want to know everything there is to know about BDSM slave training… You’ve come to the right place, my friend. Sit down, strap in, and let me walk you through what I’ve learned in the past few years about owning and training a submissive slave. I recommend reading this slave training manual…

Key takeaways I’ll admit that I hadn’t heard the term Pleasure Dom until fairly recently. Typically when I hear the word Dominant my mind jumps to the more classic styles of dominance that exist (at least it used to): In reality, the term Pleasure Dom describes my dominant style more appropriately t…

Atten-SHUN! Today I want to share with you the concept of inspection scenes and how to incorporate them into your D/s relationship. I believe many couples will get a kick out of the formality inspections bring to a dynamic. They’re a perfect way to create a power differential outside of sexual play…

Ah, the bratty submissive… The brat submissive is one of those I both love and hate as a Dom.  They are unruly, demanding, pushy, disobedient and often leave a Dominant feeling quite exasperated by all the bratty antics! Brats need constant attention to prevent them from acting out and require…

A reader emailed me to ask if I’d written anything about aftercare. Below is her email and my response. I’m a cis woman sub who has finally started her journey into the kink world. I have been interested in the lifestyle most of my life but haven’t built up enough courage to actually get my feet wet…

A sex menu is something people haven’t heard of, and if they have, haven’t got around to completing one. After reading this guide, I hope you’ll consider filling one in. I promise it’ll help you have even hotter, more intense sex, and spice up your dom/sub relationship. What is a sex menu? A sex men…

Being an INTJ I love theory. I would prefer to spend an entire day reading about the psychology of arousal than the latest fiction thriller on the bestsellers list. I remember as a young child of about nine sitting in the basement of my local bookshop and pawing over the biology books. The reproduct…

Anal training is a process you and your Dom go through to prepare you for anal penetration. If you are new to anal play or have perhaps tried it in the past and experienced pain, then fear not. I’ve written a guide to anal sex in the form of 10 easy to follow steps. By practising these steps you’ll…

So you think you want to be a submissive, and you have found someone to be your Dominant. Perhaps the Dominant is your existing partner or someone you hit things off with at a kinky event.  Congratulations! I know it can be very exhilarating.  However, there are some invaluable first steps…

The Boss gently slipped the blindfold over my eyes and told me to lie back on the bed. He carefully removed my clothing, kissing each exposed body part as he went. The dimly lit hotel room was now nothing but darkness to me, as I heard him rummage in his bag. I never know exactly what will unfold in…

What is pet play? It is a form of D/s relationship in which the Dominant takes on the role of Owner, Master, or Trainer, while the submissive is in the role of a pet. Much as with other D/s roles, these can be determined based on your own personality and needs.  Pet Play roles The Dominant in t…

So you’ve got yourself into a Daddy Dom, Little Girl relationship. Congratulations. Now you need some DDLG rules to keep everything on track. Caring for your little is one of life’s great pleasures. And you know that as well as love, they crave discipline and structure from their Daddy. Because you…