20 Popular BDSM Guides

If you have recently discovered the world of BDSM and kink, and want to know how to be a dom then this guide is for you. And not just any dom, but I’m going to teach you how to be a good dom. In this guide, I’m going to walk you through all the things you need to know if you are serious about being…

Coming up with submissive rules for your sub to follow is a really fun part of a dom sub relationship. But if you’re new to the BDSM scene you might not know the types of rules to set or even what a list of basic sub rules to follow should be. In this submissive rules guide I’ll help you understand:…

Want to build your sexual confidence? Want to blow her mind and give her earth shattering orgasms? Want to make sure she remembers you for years to come? Then you need to learn to dominate a woman in bed. You’ve come to the right place. I’m going to share some of my secrets to dominating her mentall…

It’s the middle of the Coronavirus pandemic and you’re stuck indoors. Maybe you haven’t seen your sub all week and you’re feeling frisky. Maybe you just want to turn your girlfriend on from across the room as she works away busily on that sales presentation. Either way, you need some inspiration on…

Cockwarming. You’ve seen it mentioned on an obscure BDSM forum and are intrigued. What is it? Who practises it? Is it something you should be doing in your Dom and sub relationship? I must confess I’d never heard of cockwarming (sometimes spelt ‘cock warming’) before I met my sub. She brought it up…

Domming someone remotely isn’t easy. Sometimes you just can’t think of any new ideas of what to text them. This list should help you out. I’ve tried all of these messages and had great results. Before you dominate your girl via text I must preface this article by saying you will only get a positive…

I’ve collated some of the more popular questions about Dom sub relationships below. Whilst reading, remember that the stereotypical image of a woman wearing PVC chained to the wall whilst her Dom wearing leather and waving a flogger around is only one aspect of domination and submission. Dom and sub…

Submissive punishments are a tenant of BDSM. But what makes a good punishment? When does a sub deserve to be punished? And what can go wrong? In this complete guide to submissive punishments, I’ll reveal all. What are submissive punishments? A punishment in a BDSM relationship is dished out by the d…

So you want to know everything there is to know about BDSM slave training… You’ve come to the right place, my friend. Sit down, strap in, and let me walk you through what I’ve learned in the past few years about owning and training a submissive slave. I recommend reading this slave training manual…

Interested in how to be a better submissive slave? Want a Master of your own (who also owns you)? If you’re reading this article then you probably already find the idea of being a slave appealing. Perhaps you’ve read some erotic fiction or watched slave porn, and you’re interested in the concept. Ma…

DDlg stands for Daddy Dom/little girl. It’s a form of BDSM roleplay where two adults consent to talking on roles with unequal power. One person acts as a caregiver (the Daddy Dom) and the other acts as ‘the little’ – someone who wants to receive care and affection (the little girl). DDlg is often wr…

Does your boyfriend or husband need a little encouragement to unleash his inner dominant in the bedroom? The 24 dirty talk phrases below are short and sweet, but sure to get his blood pumping. They all have a Dom/sub theme to them. They encourage him to be rougher, more forceful, more dominant, AND…

A sex menu is something people haven’t heard of, and if they have, haven’t got around to completing one. After reading this guide, I hope you’ll consider filling one in. I promise it’ll help you have even hotter, more intense sex, and spice up your dom/sub relationship. What is a sex menu? A sex men…

As I thought back to all the BDSM scenes I’d been involved in, I realised there were five core themes that ran through all of them:  Whenever I run a scene I make sure to pick one of these as the main theme. The scene theme dictates the overall feel and goal of the scene.  The 5 BDSM scene…

Last night I had a great session with my sub. It had been a while since we’d seen each other (about ten days) due to the Coronavirus lockdown restrictions in London. Today I wanted to go through some of the things I think about when planning what to do in a scene and why. I hope reading the descript…

Atten-SHUN! Today I want to share with you the concept of inspection scenes and how to incorporate them into your D/s relationship. I believe many couples will get a kick out of the formality inspections bring to a dynamic. They’re a perfect way to create a power differential outside of sexual play…

Anal training is a process you and your Dom go through to prepare you for anal penetration. If you are new to anal play or have perhaps tried it in the past and experienced pain, then fear not. I’ve written a guide to anal sex in the form of 10 easy to follow steps. By practising these steps you’ll…

So you’ve got yourself into a Daddy Dom, Little Girl relationship. Congratulations. Now you need some DDLG rules to keep everything on track. Caring for your little is one of life’s great pleasures. And you know that as well as love, they crave discipline and structure from their Daddy. Because you…

He’s timid in bed but you want the good stuff. How do you make your boyfriend more dominant in the bedroom, and your relationship in general? I grew up as the typical polite young man. I didn’t even believe women enjoyed and wanted sex, let alone to be dominated in bed. So imagine my surprise when a…

What is a sub? It’s short for submissive and describes a person (male or female) who exhibits submissive personality traits in a BDSM scene or relationship, such as empathy, agreeableness, openness and a desire to relinquish control. A sub chooses to act as the bottom, allowing the dominant to lead…