What is impact play? (and should you try it…)
Impact play is a form of BDSM that involves consensual striking or hitting of the body for pleasure. It can …
Why do guys like anal sex so much?
First up, the obligatory “not all guys” is needed. Some guys don’t enjoy anal sex, and some do. Some women …
Why Are Many of My Articles About Male Doms and Female Subs?
I frequently get berated in comments on articles or via email about my lack of inclusivity. Some people feel that …
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Is Exhibitionism Always Part of a Dom sub Dynamic?
A reader emailed me to ask if one of their hard limits would make it difficult for them to find …
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A Reader Asks: Am I a Fake Sub?
A reader wrote to me about her struggles to decide if she is a sub or not. Below is my …
Can a Submissive be Dominant in Everyday Life?
A reader asks: First, you ask if it is a thing for someone to be submissive in the bedroom but …
How do I make my husband more confident and aggressive?
A reader sent in this email: My husband and I have recently discovered BDSM. It happened very suddenly and the …
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How Do I Find a Good Dom?
Hello, Chief. I have been thinking a lot about being in a dominant/sub relationship. It is something that I have …
What is a Rigger in BDSM?
A Rigger is a BDSM term used to describe someone who enjoys restraining their partner with rope bondage (sometimes referred …
What About Aftercare?
A reader emailed me to ask if I’d written anything about aftercare. Below is her email and my response. I’m …
What is Subspace?
Subspace is the feeling of being zoned out, floaty, melty, and spaced out felt by the Submissive after an intense …
How Do I Let My Dom Know I Want Tender, Sensual, and Sensitive Too?
A reader writes: So far, the “adventure” into the D/S lifestyle has been very good to us. But, I am …
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What is a Rope Bunny?
The term Rope Bunny is used to describe a person who enjoys being tied up with rope. This may be …
How Do I Get My Boyfriend To Be More Dominant?
Great question. If you want to make your boyfriend more dominant in bed then it starts with communication. Have you …
How Do I Find A Dominant Partner?
Finding a dominant partner is probably going to be your most difficult challenge. It’s difficult enough to find someone compatible …
My Dominant Asked Me to Do Something But I Don’t Want to. Am I a Bad Sub?
Absolutely not. Being a submissive does not mean you have to do everything your dominant tells you to. That would …
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I Have Kink X. Am I normal?
What does normal even mean? Yes, chances are you are relatively normal, despite a kink you might have which isn’t …
What is a sub? And what types of sub exist?
What is a sub? It’s short for submissive and describes a person (male or female) who exhibits submissive personality traits …
What does Dom and sub mean?
What is the meaning of Dom and sub? Dom stands for Dominant and sub for submissive. The phrase Dom and …
Why Would a Woman Want to Be a Submissive?
I get asked why a woman would want to be a submissive in a dominant submissive relationship often. Whenever I …
What is a Day Collar?
A day collar is a collar designed to be worn by a sub during the day, outside of the house, …
What Does a Choker Mean on a Girl?
What does it mean when you see a woman wearing a choker around their neck? Does it automatically mean they …
Collared Sexually: What does it mean when a Dom collars a sub?
Being collared sexually is when a Dom (dominant) collars a sub (submissive) to signal that the sub belongs to the …
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