20 Popular BDSM Guides

Interested in how to be a better submissive slave? Want a Master of your own (who also owns you)? If you’re reading this article then you probably already find the idea of being a slave appealing. Perhaps you’ve read some erotic fiction or watched slave porn, and you’re interested in the concept. Ma…

DDlg stands for Daddy Dom/little girl. It’s a form of BDSM roleplay where two adults consent to talking on roles with unequal power. One person acts as a caregiver (the Daddy Dom) and the other acts as ‘the little’ – someone who wants to receive care and affection (the little girl). DDlg is often wr…

A sex menu is something people haven’t heard of, and if they have, haven’t got around to completing one. After reading this guide, I hope you’ll consider filling one in. I promise it’ll help you have even hotter, more intense sex, and spice up your dom/sub relationship. What is a sex menu? A sex men…

So you want to know everything there is to know about BDSM slave training… You’ve come to the right place, my friend. Sit down, strap in, and let me walk you through what I’ve learned in the past few years about owning and training a submissive slave. I recommend reading this slave training manual…

Coming up with submissive rules for your sub to follow is a really fun part of a dom sub relationship. But if you’re new to the BDSM scene you might not know the types of rules to set or even what a list of basic sub rules to follow should be. In this submissive rules guide I’ll help you understand:…

Want to build your sexual confidence? Want to blow her mind and give her earth shattering orgasms? Want to make sure she remembers you for years to come? Then you need to learn to dominate a woman in bed. You’ve come to the right place. I’m going to share some of my secrets to dominating her mentall…

Submissive punishments are a tenant of BDSM. But what makes a good punishment? When does a sub deserve to be punished? And what can go wrong? In this complete guide to submissive punishments, I’ll reveal all. What are submissive punishments? A punishment in a BDSM relationship is dished out by the d…

Being collared sexually is when a Dom (dominant) collars a sub (submissive) to signal that the sub belongs to the Dom in some way. To what extent depends on agreed upon boundaries and the type of submissive you want to be in your BDSM relationship. Collaring someone sexually is a BDSM practise done…

So you want to be submissive in a relationship. I’m assuming this is as opposed to being submissive outside of a relationship, such as at work or with friends. And that’s cool. Many subs I know are ballbusters in everyday life, but when they’re with their partner they want to be thrown onto the bed…

I get asked why a woman would want to be a submissive in a dominant submissive relationship often. Whenever I bring up the subject of being a Dom, the person I’m speaking to will ask me what’s in it for the woman? Why would they agree to do what I ask them? Why would they do the chores? Why would th…

So you’ve got yourself into a Daddy Dom, Little Girl relationship. Congratulations. Now you need some DDLG rules to keep everything on track. Caring for your little is one of life’s great pleasures. And you know that as well as love, they crave discipline and structure from their Daddy. Because you…

It’s our third trip to this adult swingers club in London in four weeks (Le Boudoir in case you hadn’t guessed). An expensive habit but it ticks a lot of my kink boxes. Voyeurism, exhibitionism, dungeon play, socialising, and the possibility of sex with other people. Moineau and I chat over text ear…

If you have a desire to incorporate anal sex into your dom sub relationship then I’m here to help. Anal sex can be an exciting prospect for a submissive and her dominant. Allowing a partner unfettered access to any part of your body (especially if you are into ‘free use’) is very arousing. And as a…

I lifted a corner of the satin blindfold from my eyes and took one last peek around the living room. I’d set it up just as The Boss instructed: the curtains were drawn, candles were lit, the heavy iron mirror from the bedroom had been moved into the living room and propped up against the wall. The h…

Key takeaways I’ll admit that I hadn’t heard the term Pleasure Dom until fairly recently. Typically when I hear the word Dominant my mind jumps to the more classic styles of dominance that exist (at least it used to): In reality, the term Pleasure Dom describes my dominant style more appropriately t…

Want to reward your sub for being good with a super intense orgasm? In this guide for a dominant man in a D/s relationship with a submissive woman, I’ll explain some techniques, and give a brief description of how I would run a simple BDSM scene using all of these factors. Four factors for an intens…

The term Rope Bunny is used to describe a person who enjoys being tied up with rope. This may be for a variety of reasons, as described below. Just because someone is a rope bunny does not necessarily mean they are a submissive. They may just be a ‘bottom’. But due to the language this is often the…

You know how your body reacts to just the thought of being dominated by a strong, powerful man? It begins as an internal contraction and spirals outward, encompassing your entire being. It creates a visceral ache and need that demands expression through active surrender. It’s a common reaction from…

Welcome to the world of power play, where the thrill of dominance and submission can bring an electrifying edge to your relationship and sex. Whether you’re a novice or a seasoned pro, there’s always a way to incorporate different styles of power play into your BDSM scenes and relationships. In this…

I’ve collated some of the more popular questions about Dom sub relationships below. Whilst reading, remember that the stereotypical image of a woman wearing PVC chained to the wall whilst her Dom wearing leather and waving a flogger around is only one aspect of domination and submission. Dom and sub…