What Does it Mean When a Dom Collars a Sub?

when a dom collars a sub

When a Dom (dominant) collars a sub (submissive) it is a sign that the sub belongs to the Dom in some way. To what extent depends on agreed upon boundaries and the type of submissive you want to be in your BDSM relationship.

For example, some subs may only want to wear a BDSM collar in the bedroom. A Dom would collar his sub before the start of the play session (referred to as a scene) to indicate from that moment on she must follow their agreed upon rules. Once the scene is over, the collar is removed.

blindfolded submissive woman wearing bdsm collar
Kneeling blindfolded wearing your collar for your Master is the ultimate for a sub. Photo by Ali Saadat on Unsplash

Other subs may want more 24/7 style of BDSM relationship, where they always wear a collar. Their Dom would collar them during a collaring ceremony when they have proved loyal and up to the task. From that moment on the sub would wear the collar.

Just because a Dom has collared his sub, it doesn’t mean she must wear the same one everyday. Many choose different BDSM collars for different settings. You might wear a subtle lace choker as a day collar in public which goes with your outfit and wouldn’t draw unnecessary attention to yourself, but still holds significance for you and your Dom.

A sub woman wearing a BDSM collar
A BDSM collar on a submissive woman. Image credit: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Collar_(BDSM)

In private you might opt for a more conspicuous leather BDSM collar with the classic D-ring (for leash attachment). And during a BDSM scene you might were an even more restrictive collar, designed to only be worn for a short time.

The choice is up to you and your Dom (probably your Dom to be fair if you’re submissive ;)).

So ultimately, what does it mean when a Dom collars a sub? It means he trusts you enough to carry out your duties, and he is pleased with your ability to serve him so far.

Wearing your collar should make you feel happy as a sub, knowing that you are pleasing your Dom, and that your Dom wants to own you, hence has taken the time to provide you with a collar.

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