What Being a Dominant REALLY Means
When my partners first told me they were submissive and wanted me to dominate them, I didn’t know what they …
A Short Perspective on Dom/sub Relationships
I recently had a question from a reader who is learning what it means to be a Dom. They wrote …
Not Every BDSM Scene Has to Be Extreme
As a beginner Dominant or Submissive you don’t have to make your BDSM scenes as intense as what is shown …
The Power of Repetition for Inducing a Submissive Mindset
I love a good massage. Not in a sexual way. But in a “wow this feels incredibly relaxing” kind of …
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Better BDSM Scenes with the 5 Big Themes
As I thought back to all the BDSM scenes I’d been involved in, I realised there were five core themes …
What is Subspace?
Subspace is the feeling of being zoned out, floaty, melty, and spaced out felt by the Submissive after an intense …
I Asked My Readers What Being a Submissive Means To Them. Here’s What They Said
I love talking to other dominants and submissives about their experiences of D/s relationships. Be it beginners just starting out …
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An Example of How I Structure My BDSM Scenes
Last night I had a great session with my sub. It had been a while since we’d seen each other …
5 Books Every Dominant Should Read for Healthier D/s Relationships
Being an INTJ I love theory. I would prefer to spend an entire day reading about the psychology of arousal …
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What does Dom and sub mean?
What is the meaning of Dom and sub? Dom stands for Dominant and sub for submissive. The phrase Dom and …
BDSM Contracts: A Beginner’s Guide
A BDSM contract is a document detailing the expectations two people in a dominant and submissive relationship have of each …
Why Would a Woman Want to Be a Submissive?
I get asked why a woman would want to be a submissive in a dominant submissive relationship often. Whenever I …
What Does it Mean When a Dom Collars a Sub?
When a Dom (dominant) collars a sub (submissive) it is a sign that the sub belongs to the Dom in …