The boot worship kink
Boot worship is a BDSM kink or fetish where individuals derive sexual arousal and enjoyment from boots. It is one …
The Pleasure Dom (what it is and how to be one)
Key takeaways I’ll admit that I hadn’t heard the term Pleasure Dom until fairly recently. Typically when I hear the …
DDLG: A complete guide to Daddy Dom little girl dynamics
DDlg stands for Daddy Dom/little girl. It’s a form of BDSM roleplay where two adults consent to talking on roles …
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4 ways to avoid topping from the bottom
Topping from the bottom is when a person who has agreed to relinquish power in a power-play dynamic attempts to …
What is impact play? (and should you try it…)
Impact play is a form of BDSM that involves consensual striking or hitting of the body for pleasure. It can …
Powerplay in Dom sub relationships (what you need to know)
Powerplay in Dom/sub relationships is a fundamental aspect of BDSM dynamics. It involves the exchange of power and control between …
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Discovering your inner submissive: A step-by-step guide to exploring your desires
The world of dominance and submission, or BDSM, can be an exciting and fulfilling place for those who are interested …
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The fear of getting it wrong: How to turn your greatest weakness into your greatest strength
“I don’t know what to do”. “I can’t be a Dom until I’ve learned everything.” “How do I start when …
What is a BDSM Relationship?
Just what is a BDSM relationship? What does it involve? What sort of people participate? You’ve got so many questions, …
The One Question Beginner Submissives Ask Me Over and Over
There’s one question I’ve been asked countless times over the years. How do I be a good submissive for my …
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5 Things You Should Know About Aftercare
If you are new to BDSM you might not be familiar with aftercare. Aftercare refers to the soothing care provided …
5 Things You May Not Know About BDSM
The world of kink and BDSM is massive. If you are new this can be both daunting and exciting. There …
Three Tips To Get Your Scenes To Flow More Naturally
You and your Dominant have been texting up a storm. They talk about tying you up to the bedposts and …
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Five Self-Care Tips for Submissives
Often in a BDSM dynamic, we can get focused on care coming from an external place. A Daddy-Dom caring for …
The Power of a Dom/sub Relationship
Not long ago during a Sunday evening in lockdown my wife asked me a question. “When was it that you …
10 Warning Signs You’re Dealing With a Bad Dominant: A Submissive’s Guide to Avoiding Insecure Men Masquerading as Doms
You know how your body reacts to just the thought of being dominated by a strong, powerful man? It begins …
6 First Steps to Becoming a Great Submissive in a Dom/sub Relationship (In-depth Guide)
So you think you want to be a submissive, and you have found someone to be your Dominant. Perhaps the …
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How to Be a Bratty Submissive (6 Guaranteed Ways to Rile Up Your Dominant)
Ah, the bratty submissive… The brat submissive is one of those I both love and hate as a Dom. They …
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The One Thing Your Submissive Craves
To the completely untrained eye, it can appear as though us submissives crave violence. It can definitely seem that way …
Reigniting the Passion in an Ever Evolving Dom/Sub Dynamic
If you are currently in a D/s relationship, at this point you and your partner have taken the time to …
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Love and Leashes: 11 Quotes from Netflix’s New Korean BDSM Film (Reviewed by a Real Submissive)
I was immediately sceptical when I heard the popular streaming service had released a new BDSM film. Without throwing shade …
10 Quick Tips For A Successful First Time Dominating A Submissive
Nervous about dominating a submissive for the first time? Then you’ve come to the right place. These ten tips will …
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A Five Minute Core Desires Exercise Which Leads to Hotter Sex
I want to share one exercise you can use to have kinkier fun. Don’t dismiss it due to it’s simplicity. …
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Total Power Exchange: An Overview of the TPE Kink
Every heard the phrase Total Power Exchange in the context of BDSM and wondered what it meant? Or someone mentioning …
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What Being a Dominant REALLY Means
When my partners first told me they were submissive and wanted me to dominate them, I didn’t know what they …
A Short Perspective on Dom/sub Relationships
I recently had a question from a reader who is learning what it means to be a Dom. They wrote …
Not Every BDSM Scene Has to Be Extreme
As a beginner Dominant or Submissive you don’t have to make your BDSM scenes as intense as what is shown …
The Power of Repetition for Inducing a Submissive Mindset
I love a good massage. Not in a sexual way. But in a “wow this feels incredibly relaxing” kind of …
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Better BDSM Scenes with the 5 Big Themes
As I thought back to all the BDSM scenes I’d been involved in, I realised there were five core themes …
What is Subspace?
Subspace is the feeling of being zoned out, floaty, melty, and spaced out felt by the Submissive after an intense …
I Asked My Readers What Being a Submissive Means To Them. Here’s What They Said
I love talking to other dominants and submissives about their experiences of D/s relationships. Be it beginners just starting out …
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An Example of How I Structure My BDSM Scenes
Last night I had a great session with my sub. It had been a while since we’d seen each other …
5 Books Every Dominant Should Read for Healthier D/s Relationships
Being an INTJ I love theory. I would prefer to spend an entire day reading about the psychology of arousal …
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