20 Popular BDSM Guides

If you have recently discovered the world of BDSM and kink, and want to know how to be a dom then this guide is for you. And not just any dom, but I’m going to teach you how to be a good dom. In this guide, I’m going to walk you through all the things you need to know if you are serious about being…

I’ve collated some of the more popular questions about Dom sub relationships below. Whilst reading, remember that the stereotypical image of a woman wearing PVC chained to the wall whilst her Dom wearing leather and waving a flogger around is only one aspect of domination and submission. Dom and sub…

Cockwarming. You’ve seen it mentioned on an obscure BDSM forum and are intrigued. What is it? Who practises it? Is it something you should be doing in your Dom and sub relationship? I must confess I’d never heard of cockwarming (sometimes spelt ‘cock warming’) before I met my sub. She brought it up…

Domming someone remotely isn’t easy. Sometimes you just can’t think of any new ideas of what to text them. This list should help you out. I’ve tried all of these messages and had great results. Before you dominate your girl via text I must preface this article by saying you will only get a positive…

Last night I had a great session with my sub. It had been a while since we’d seen each other (about ten days) due to the Coronavirus lockdown restrictions in London. Today I wanted to go through some of the things I think about when planning what to do in a scene and why. I hope reading the descript…

So you want to know everything there is to know about BDSM slave training… You’ve come to the right place, my friend. Sit down, strap in, and let me walk you through what I’ve learned in the past few years about owning and training a submissive slave. I recommend reading this slave training manual…

DDlg stands for Daddy Dom/little girl. It’s a form of BDSM roleplay where two adults consent to talking on roles with unequal power. One person acts as a caregiver (the Daddy Dom) and the other acts as ‘the little’ – someone who wants to receive care and affection (the little girl). DDlg is often wr…

Key takeaways I’ll admit that I hadn’t heard the term Pleasure Dom until fairly recently. Typically when I hear the word Dominant my mind jumps to the more classic styles of dominance that exist (at least it used to): In reality, the term Pleasure Dom describes my dominant style more appropriately t…

It’s the middle of the Coronavirus pandemic and you’re stuck indoors. Maybe you haven’t seen your sub all week and you’re feeling frisky. Maybe you just want to turn your girlfriend on from across the room as she works away busily on that sales presentation. Either way, you need some inspiration on…

Want to build your sexual confidence? Want to blow her mind and give her earth shattering orgasms? Want to make sure she remembers you for years to come? Then you need to learn to dominate a woman in bed. You’ve come to the right place. I’m going to share some of my secrets to dominating her mentall…

Interested in how to be a better submissive slave? Want a Master of your own (who also owns you)? If you’re reading this article then you probably already find the idea of being a slave appealing. Perhaps you’ve read some erotic fiction or watched slave porn, and you’re interested in the concept. Ma…

Objectification is when the Dominant treats the submissive as an object. There are many ways someone can be objectified. The most common would be to objectify their body – it is seen as a sex toy for the Dominant to use for their own sexual pleasure. Another form of objectification might be less sex…

Coming up with submissive rules for your sub to follow is a really fun part of a dom sub relationship. But if you’re new to the BDSM scene you might not know the types of rules to set or even what a list of basic sub rules to follow should be. In this submissive rules guide I’ll help you understand:…

Submissive punishments are a tenant of BDSM. But what makes a good punishment? When does a sub deserve to be punished? And what can go wrong? In this complete guide to submissive punishments, I’ll reveal all. What are submissive punishments? A punishment in a BDSM relationship is dished out by the d…

Does your boyfriend or husband need a little encouragement to unleash his inner dominant in the bedroom? The 24 dirty talk phrases below are short and sweet, but sure to get his blood pumping. They all have a Dom/sub theme to them. They encourage him to be rougher, more forceful, more dominant, AND…

The world of dominance and submission, or BDSM, can be an exciting and fulfilling place for those who are interested in exploring their submissive side. If you have always harboured a desire to be submissive, or if you are simply curious about what it might be like, this article is for you. Here, we…

Consensual non-consent (often shortened to CNC) is a kink where partners consensually agree to role-play a scenario that mimics non-consent. It sounds intense, but everything is carefully negotiated beforehand to ensure safety and mutual enjoyment. And oh boy. It’s definitely a topic which can sure…

What is a sub? It’s short for submissive and describes a person (male or female) who exhibits submissive personality traits in a BDSM scene or relationship, such as empathy, agreeableness, openness and a desire to relinquish control. A sub chooses to act as the bottom, allowing the dominant to lead…

So you and/or your partner are curious about what happens at a sex party and are tempted to attend one. I certainly know I was for a long time. What happens? What sort of people attend? Read on for a high level over view of the types of parties that are out there, and a few tips. Every party is diff…

I was disappointed at the quality of BDSM training I saw online. I wanted more in-depth information. I wanted it to be practical. And I didn’t want it to be overly pornographic. I wanted something that would have helped me when I started out in this world. That’s why I created two BDSM trainings in…