20 Popular BDSM Guides

“Holy shit. That’s a lot of sex toys!” I exclaimed. Seeing them all laid out on the floor of my flat made me wonder if the sex toy drawer in my bedroom in which they usually resided had some sort of Harry Potter-esque magical bottomless property to it. Moineau had suggested a sex toy tidy up. Little…

So you want to know everything there is to know about BDSM slave training… You’ve come to the right place, my friend. Sit down, strap in, and let me walk you through what I’ve learned in the past few years about owning and training a submissive slave. I recommend reading this slave training manual…

Key takeaways I’ll admit that I hadn’t heard the term Pleasure Dom until fairly recently. Typically when I hear the word Dominant my mind jumps to the more classic styles of dominance that exist (at least it used to): In reality, the term Pleasure Dom describes my dominant style more appropriately t…

Consensual non-consent (often shortened to CNC) is a kink where partners consensually agree to role-play a scenario that mimics non-consent. It sounds intense, but everything is carefully negotiated beforehand to ensure safety and mutual enjoyment. And oh boy. It’s definitely a topic which can sure…

DDlg stands for Daddy Dom/little girl. It’s a form of BDSM roleplay where two adults consent to talking on roles with unequal power. One person acts as a caregiver (the Daddy Dom) and the other acts as ‘the little’ – someone who wants to receive care and affection (the little girl). DDlg is often wr…

What on earth are forced orgasms? Why do some couples partake in this practice? And how can YOU introduce it into your relationship? Far from what the name might suggest, forced orgasm play is all about consensual control, amplified sensations, and the deep trust between partners. This guide breaks…

Cockwarming. You’ve seen it mentioned on an obscure BDSM forum and are intrigued. What is it? Who practises it? Is it something you should be doing in your Dom and sub relationship? I must confess I’d never heard of cockwarming (sometimes spelt ‘cock warming’) before I met my sub. She brought it up…

So you and/or your partner are curious about what happens at a sex party and are tempted to attend one. I certainly know I was for a long time. What happens? What sort of people attend? Read on for a high level over view of the types of parties that are out there, and a few tips. Every party is diff…

Interested in how to be a better submissive slave? Want a Master of your own (who also owns you)? If you’re reading this article then you probably already find the idea of being a slave appealing. Perhaps you’ve read some erotic fiction or watched slave porn, and you’re interested in the concept. Ma…

If you have recently discovered the world of BDSM and kink, and want to know how to be a dom then this guide is for you. And not just any dom, but I’m going to teach you how to be a good dom. In this guide, I’m going to walk you through all the things you need to know if you are serious about being…

Last night I had a great session with my sub. It had been a while since we’d seen each other (about ten days) due to the Coronavirus lockdown restrictions in London. Today I wanted to go through some of the things I think about when planning what to do in a scene and why. I hope reading the descript…

Coming up with submissive rules for your sub to follow is a really fun part of a dom sub relationship. But if you’re new to the BDSM scene you might not know the types of rules to set or even what a list of basic sub rules to follow should be. In this submissive rules guide I’ll help you understand:…

Want to build your sexual confidence? Want to blow her mind and give her earth shattering orgasms? Want to make sure she remembers you for years to come? Then you need to learn to dominate a woman in bed. You’ve come to the right place. I’m going to share some of my secrets to dominating her mentall…

Does your boyfriend or husband need a little encouragement to unleash his inner dominant in the bedroom? The 24 dirty talk phrases below are short and sweet, but sure to get his blood pumping. They all have a Dom/sub theme to them. They encourage him to be rougher, more forceful, more dominant, AND…

I’ve collated some of the more popular questions about Dom sub relationships below. Whilst reading, remember that the stereotypical image of a woman wearing PVC chained to the wall whilst her Dom wearing leather and waving a flogger around is only one aspect of domination and submission. Dom and sub…

She feels me stirring on a Saturday morning. She’s been awake for a while, waiting. Once she knows I’m semi-conscious, she politely whispers in my ear “Daddy, may I suck your cock?”. “Of course you may” I respond groggily. She slides down under the duvet as I lay on my back, eyes closed. Her fingert…

Want to reward your sub for being good with a super intense orgasm? In this guide for a dominant man in a D/s relationship with a submissive woman, I’ll explain some techniques, and give a brief description of how I would run a simple BDSM scene using all of these factors. Four factors for an intens…

So you’ve got yourself into a Daddy Dom, Little Girl relationship. Congratulations. Now you need some DDLG rules to keep everything on track. Caring for your little is one of life’s great pleasures. And you know that as well as love, they crave discipline and structure from their Daddy. Because you…

Curious about switching roles in BDSM? Being a “switch” means enjoying both dominant and submissive roles, depending on the situation and mood. This guide breaks down what it means to be a BDSM switch, why people switch, and how to make it work in a relationship. Whether you’re exploring BDSM or loo…

Submissive punishments are a tenant of BDSM. But what makes a good punishment? When does a sub deserve to be punished? And what can go wrong? In this complete guide to submissive punishments, I’ll reveal all. What are submissive punishments? A punishment in a BDSM relationship is dished out by the d…