20 Popular BDSM Guides

When my partners first told me they were submissive and wanted me to dominate them, I didn’t know what they meant. What does it REALLY mean to be a Dominant in a D/s dynamic? Your first challenge as a beginner Dom is making sure you understand what good and bad looks like. After that you can start t…

Coming up with submissive rules for your sub to follow is a really fun part of a dom sub relationship. But if you’re new to the BDSM scene you might not know the types of rules to set or even what a list of basic sub rules to follow should be. In this submissive rules guide I’ll help you understand:…

Key takeaways I’ll admit that I hadn’t heard the term Pleasure Dom until fairly recently. Typically when I hear the word Dominant my mind jumps to the more classic styles of dominance that exist (at least it used to): In reality, the term Pleasure Dom describes my dominant style more appropriately t…

I’ve discussed my desire to host kinky parties in previous articles. Now I’ve moved home I have the luxury of a study that can be turned into a kinky BDSM play-room at night. But…I obviously don’t want blatantly obvious sex furniture laying around for someone to stumble upon (ie my parents if they…

Cockwarming. You’ve seen it mentioned on an obscure BDSM forum and are intrigued. What is it? Who practises it? Is it something you should be doing in your Dom and sub relationship? I must confess I’d never heard of cockwarming (sometimes spelt ‘cock warming’) before I met my sub. She brought it up…

If you have recently discovered the world of BDSM and kink, and want to know how to be a dom then this guide is for you. And not just any dom, but I’m going to teach you how to be a good dom. In this guide, I’m going to walk you through all the things you need to know if you are serious about being…

The following is a submission by a female reader based on London who emailed to share her first experience of D/s. Having felt unfulfilled in her sex life for some time, and intrigued by scenes depicted in Game of Thrones, she stumbled across the Kinky Events website and, having decided D/s was some…

Being collared sexually is when a Dom (dominant) collars a sub (submissive) to signal that the sub belongs to the Dom in some way. To what extent depends on agreed upon boundaries and the type of submissive you want to be in your BDSM relationship. Collaring someone sexually is a BDSM practise done…

It’s the middle of the Coronavirus pandemic and you’re stuck indoors. Maybe you haven’t seen your sub all week and you’re feeling frisky. Maybe you just want to turn your girlfriend on from across the room as she works away busily on that sales presentation. Either way, you need some inspiration on…

I get asked why a woman would want to be a submissive in a dominant submissive relationship often. Whenever I bring up the subject of being a Dom, the person I’m speaking to will ask me what’s in it for the woman? Why would they agree to do what I ask them? Why would they do the chores? Why would th…

If you have kinky desires, want your partner to step up in the bedroom, or have a kink you are too embarrassed to discuss, then these 8 steps will help. Communication is the secret sauce in kinky sex. Being able to discuss sex openly and without judgement is THE golden ticket to a more fulfilling se…

DDlg stands for Daddy Dom/little girl. It’s a form of BDSM roleplay where two adults consent to talking on roles with unequal power. One person acts as a caregiver (the Daddy Dom) and the other acts as ‘the little’ – someone who wants to receive care and affection (the little girl). DDlg is often wr…

So you want to know everything there is to know about BDSM slave training… You’ve come to the right place, my friend. Sit down, strap in, and let me walk you through what I’ve learned in the past few years about owning and training a submissive slave. I recommend reading this slave training manual…

Interested in how to be a better submissive slave? Want a Master of your own (who also owns you)? If you’re reading this article then you probably already find the idea of being a slave appealing. Perhaps you’ve read some erotic fiction or watched slave porn, and you’re interested in the concept. Ma…

Submissive punishments are a tenant of BDSM. But what makes a good punishment? When does a sub deserve to be punished? And what can go wrong? In this complete guide to submissive punishments, I’ll reveal all. What are submissive punishments? A punishment in a BDSM relationship is dished out by the d…

A BDSM contract is a document detailing the expectations two people in a dominant and submissive relationship have of each other. It is mostly the dominant partner providing clear instructions to the submissive, but can include things the sub should expect from the Dom. It isn’t legally binding but…

He’s timid in bed but you want the good stuff. How do you make your boyfriend more dominant in the bedroom, and your relationship in general? I grew up as the typical polite young man. I didn’t even believe women enjoyed and wanted sex, let alone to be dominated in bed. So imagine my surprise when a…

A day collar is a collar designed to be worn by a sub during the day, outside of the house, without drawing too much attention to it. They are typically worn after a Dom collars his submissive once they enter a BDSM relationship. Why do subs wear day collars? Day collars are designed to be discreet…

Domming someone remotely isn’t easy. Sometimes you just can’t think of any new ideas of what to text them. This list should help you out. I’ve tried all of these messages and had great results. Before you dominate your girl via text I must preface this article by saying you will only get a positive…

Impact play is a form of BDSM that involves consensual striking or hitting of the body for pleasure. It can range from light spanking to more intense forms like flogging or caning. Impact play is…well…physically impacting something onto someone. Impact play is not about causing harm. It’s about expl…