20 Popular BDSM Guides

Coming up with submissive rules for your sub to follow is a really fun part of a dom sub relationship. But if you’re new to the BDSM scene you might not know the types of rules to set or even what a list of basic sub rules to follow should be. In this submissive rules guide I’ll help you understand:…

So you want to know everything there is to know about BDSM slave training… You’ve come to the right place, my friend. Sit down, strap in, and let me walk you through what I’ve learned in the past few years about owning and training a submissive slave. I recommend reading this slave training manual…

Cockwarming. You’ve seen it mentioned on an obscure BDSM forum and are intrigued. What is it? Who practises it? Is it something you should be doing in your Dom and sub relationship? I must confess I’d never heard of cockwarming (sometimes spelt ‘cock warming’) before I met my sub. She brought it up…

Domming someone remotely isn’t easy. Sometimes you just can’t think of any new ideas of what to text them. This list should help you out. I’ve tried all of these messages and had great results. Before you dominate your girl via text I must preface this article by saying you will only get a positive…

It’s the middle of the Coronavirus pandemic and you’re stuck indoors. Maybe you haven’t seen your sub all week and you’re feeling frisky. Maybe you just want to turn your girlfriend on from across the room as she works away busily on that sales presentation. Either way, you need some inspiration on…

What does it mean when you see a woman wearing a choker around their neck? Does it automatically mean they are submissive and their Dom has collared them? Not at all. A choker can be worn as a fashion item (they were all the rage a couple of years ago) or they may be a form of day collar. Whenever I…

A sex menu is something people haven’t heard of, and if they have, haven’t got around to completing one. After reading this guide, I hope you’ll consider filling one in. I promise it’ll help you have even hotter, more intense sex, and spice up your dom/sub relationship. What is a sex menu? A sex men…

If you have recently discovered the world of BDSM and kink, and want to know how to be a dom then this guide is for you. And not just any dom, but I’m going to teach you how to be a good dom. In this guide, I’m going to walk you through all the things you need to know if you are serious about being…

Submissive punishments are a tenant of BDSM. But what makes a good punishment? When does a sub deserve to be punished? And what can go wrong? In this complete guide to submissive punishments, I’ll reveal all. What are submissive punishments? A punishment in a BDSM relationship is dished out by the d…

DDlg stands for Daddy Dom/little girl. It’s a form of BDSM roleplay where two adults consent to talking on roles with unequal power. One person acts as a caregiver (the Daddy Dom) and the other acts as ‘the little’ – someone who wants to receive care and affection (the little girl). DDlg is often wr…

Key takeaways I’ll admit that I hadn’t heard the term Pleasure Dom until fairly recently. Typically when I hear the word Dominant my mind jumps to the more classic styles of dominance that exist (at least it used to): In reality, the term Pleasure Dom describes my dominant style more appropriately t…

I’ve collated some of the more popular questions about Dom sub relationships below. Whilst reading, remember that the stereotypical image of a woman wearing PVC chained to the wall whilst her Dom wearing leather and waving a flogger around is only one aspect of domination and submission. Dom and sub…

Want to build your sexual confidence? Want to blow her mind and give her earth shattering orgasms? Want to make sure she remembers you for years to come? Then you need to learn to dominate a woman in bed. You’ve come to the right place. I’m going to share some of my secrets to dominating her mentall…

Interested in how to be a better submissive slave? Want a Master of your own (who also owns you)? If you’re reading this article then you probably already find the idea of being a slave appealing. Perhaps you’ve read some erotic fiction or watched slave porn, and you’re interested in the concept. Ma…

When my partners first told me they were submissive and wanted me to dominate them, I didn’t know what they meant. What does it REALLY mean to be a Dominant in a D/s dynamic? Your first challenge as a beginner Dom is making sure you understand what good and bad looks like. After that you can start t…

I’m by no means a sexual Olympian, but I’ve probably had a few more threesomes than the average person you’d meet on the street. I’m not here to brag. More to give an honest account of what it’s really like to be in the middle of two (or more) naked bodies. Should you be considering incorporating a…

Impact play is a form of BDSM that involves consensual striking or hitting of the body for pleasure. It can range from light spanking to more intense forms like flogging or caning. Impact play is…well…physically impacting something onto someone. Impact play is not about causing harm. It’s about expl…

“Holy shit. That’s a lot of sex toys!” I exclaimed. Seeing them all laid out on the floor of my flat made me wonder if the sex toy drawer in my bedroom in which they usually resided had some sort of Harry Potter-esque magical bottomless property to it. Moineau had suggested a sex toy tidy up. Little…

I’ve discussed my desire to host kinky parties in previous articles. Now I’ve moved home I have the luxury of a study that can be turned into a kinky BDSM play-room at night. But…I obviously don’t want blatantly obvious sex furniture laying around for someone to stumble upon (ie my parents if they…

Being collared sexually is when a Dom (dominant) collars a sub (submissive) to signal that the sub belongs to the Dom in some way. To what extent depends on agreed upon boundaries and the type of submissive you want to be in your BDSM relationship. Collaring someone sexually is a BDSM practise done…