What is a Day Collar?

A lace choker for a BDSM day collar

A day collar is a collar designed to be worn by a sub during the day, outside of the house, without drawing too much attention to it. They are typically worn after a Dom collars his submissive once they enter a BDSM relationship.

Why do subs wear day collars?

Day collars are designed to be discreet whilst still signifying the submission of the wearer to another person. If you are into the BDSM lifestyle and enjoy the feeling of being owned, then you may always want some token to show it. A leather thick submissive collar is probably going to attract a lot of unwanted attention if you are out on a lovely stroll with your Master, but a discreet day collar would not.

What types of day collar exist?

A day collar isn’t necessarily created with your BDSM kinks in mind. Anything can be be turned into a day collar. What’s important is the significance it has for you.

A simple string bdsm day collar
A simple string tie can also work as a day collar. Photo by João Silas on Unsplash.

Classic examples of BDSM day collars include chokers, tight necklaces, string necklaces, pendants or any other discreet item which goes around the neck.

If you decide to go with a necklace, you can always buy one with a lock to symbolise your servitude, or an O-ring, which is a recognisable symbol in the BDSM world, perhaps a more discreet version of a D-ring collar found on animal leashes.

BDSM Choker Collar with O-ring and Pendant Leash
A rather fetching 0-ring choker with chain and pendant, perfect as a subtle day collar.

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If it isn't appropriate for you to wear a necklace (for example some workplaces may not allow it, or your are at the beach or swimming pool) you can opt for a bracelet or anklet.

Here's some further day collar inspiration.

What type of day collar should I wear?

That's completely up to you and your Dom. Part of the fun is picking one out together. You might also have several day collars in your arsenal which you pick and choose from to ensure they match your outfit of the day.

A lace choker for a BDSM day collar
A lace choker can be worn as a BDSM day collar fashionably in public. You have to agree it looks hot as fuck, Photo by Atikh Bana on Unsplash.

Where can I buy a day collar?

Remember a day collar doesn't have to be an item specifically by a BDSM dungeon master in the depths of hell (although props to you if you do wear one of those!). Most regular high street clothing shop will have an array of jewellery which can serve as a day collar.

Alternatively, Etsy is a great place to pick up something a little more craft and distinctive. Get on the site and do a search to see what comes up. With hundreds of handmade items to choose from I'm sure you'll be able to find something to your (and Sir's) liking.

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