A reader recently emailed me this (some parts changed to keep it anonymous): As a new dom my personal challenge […]
How do I introduce BDSM into a long-term relationship as a Dominant? Read More »
Impact play is a form of BDSM that involves consensual striking or hitting of the body for pleasure. It can
What is impact play? (and should you try it…) Read More »
First up, the obligatory “not all guys” is needed. Some guys don’t enjoy anal sex, and some do. Some women
Why do guys like anal sex so much? Read More »
I frequently get berated in comments on articles or via email about my lack of inclusivity. Some people feel that
Why Are Many of My Articles About Male Doms and Female Subs? Read More »
A reader emailed me to ask if one of their hard limits would make it difficult for them to find
Is Exhibitionism Always Part of a Dom sub Dynamic? Read More »
A reader wrote to me about her struggles to decide if she is a sub or not. Below is my
A Reader Asks: Am I a Fake Sub? Read More »
A reader asks: First, you ask if it is a thing for someone to be submissive in the bedroom but
Can a Submissive be Dominant in Everyday Life? Read More »
A reader sent in this email: My husband and I have recently discovered BDSM. It happened very suddenly and the
How do I make my husband more confident and aggressive? Read More »
Hello, Chief. I have been thinking a lot about being in a dominant/sub relationship. It is something that I have
How Do I Find a Good Dom? Read More »
A Rigger is a BDSM term used to describe someone who enjoys restraining their partner with rope bondage (sometimes referred
What is a Rigger in BDSM? Read More »
A reader emailed me to ask if I’d written anything about aftercare. Below is her email and my response. I’m
What About Aftercare? Read More »
Subspace is the feeling of being zoned out, floaty, melty, and spaced out felt by the Submissive after an intense
A reader writes: So far, the “adventure” into the D/S lifestyle has been very good to us. But, I am
How Do I Let My Dom Know I Want Tender, Sensual, and Sensitive Too? Read More »
The term Rope Bunny is used to describe a person who enjoys being tied up with rope. This may be
What is a Rope Bunny? Read More »
Great question. If you want to make your boyfriend more dominant in bed then it starts with communication. Have you
How Do I Get My Boyfriend To Be More Dominant? Read More »
Finding a dominant partner is probably going to be your most difficult challenge. It’s difficult enough to find someone compatible
How Do I Find A Dominant Partner? Read More »
Absolutely not. Being a submissive does not mean you have to do everything your dominant tells you to. That would
My Dominant Asked Me to Do Something But I Don’t Want to. Am I a Bad Sub? Read More »
What does normal even mean? Yes, chances are you are relatively normal, despite a kink you might have which isn’t
I Have Kink X. Am I normal? Read More »
What is a sub? It’s short for submissive and describes a person (male or female) who exhibits submissive personality traits
What is a sub? And what types of sub exist? Read More »
What is the meaning of Dom and sub? Dom stands for Dominant and sub for submissive. The phrase Dom and
What does Dom and sub mean? Read More »
I get asked why a woman would want to be a submissive in a dominant submissive relationship often. Whenever I
Why Would a Woman Want to Be a Submissive? Read More »
A day collar is a collar designed to be worn by a sub during the day, outside of the house,
What is a Day Collar? Read More »
What does it mean when you see a woman wearing a choker around their neck? Does it automatically mean they
What Does a Choker Mean on a Girl? Read More »
Being collared sexually is when a Dom (dominant) collars a sub (submissive) to signal that the sub belongs to the
Collared Sexually: What does it mean when a Dom collars a sub? Read More »
