Editor’s note: Since writing this article both The Community and my rope bondage course mentioned below have launched.
I don’t often write about my plans for the website.
I’m not sure if they are of interest to readers.
Most people visit the website looking for advice on a particular D/s topic and then head off (although many do grab a free giveaway or join my email list for updates from me from time to time).
But you never know until you test it, right?This site was launched in 2019 as a platform for me to review kinky events I attended in London (hence the domain name which doesn’t quite capture what I write about anymore).
Those were the good old days.
The pre Covid days.
We were allowed outside and sex parties, meetups, and talks about BDSM and sex were a weekly occurrence in London.
I enjoyed going to them as a way of educating myself, letting my hair down, and meeting fellow kinksters (my rationale being I was far more likely to find a potential partner at a talk about non-monogamy or BDSM than at a bar or regular social event).
I wanted to review the events as well as document the experiences I was having, in an effort to demystify sex parties and make it more acceptable to talk about sex generally.
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I’d wanted to attend a play party for many years before I finally got a chance to but was apprehensive about what happened at them, the type of people who attended, what would be expected of me, if everyone was super fit, if everyone was super ugly, and many more questions! (I answer these in my article here and you can read reviews of the parties I’ve been to here).
But there was more I wanted to tell the world about…
It was early 2020 when I began to wonder if people would be interested in also hearing about aspects of dominance and submission, particularly what real-life D/s relationships REALLY look like.
And so I began to write Dom sub guides, like me Dom Sub Relationships: The Ultimate Guide for Beginners.
I focussed on all the topics I’d wondered about when I first got into this lifestyle.
I never had this kind of a resource.
So I wanted to give something back, putting my own unique spin on things in a down to earth and practical way.
The articles proved popular.
My cockwarming article was the first ‘hit’, followed by the guide to sex menus, submissive punishments, and a various others.
(If you’re interested, I complied a useful list for dominants here and submissives here).
As lockdown took hold and people were separated from their partners, people flocked to my submissive texts giveaway, as well as the how to be dominant over text article.
It was clear that lots of you out there want to know more about Dom sub relationships.
What isn’t entirely clear to me just yet is what level my audience is at. I think they are people who already have experimented with D/s and want to take it to the next level, but I suspect there are total beginners reading too.
Until I find out otherwise, this is my target audience and who I write for.
Which brought me to two new ideas…
Bondage and restraints are a core tenant of BDSM and often using in the bedroom in D/s dynamics.
There are plenty of rope bondage videos on YouTube and lists of knots on other websites, but I have yet to see a full video course which takes a beginner from zero to hero.
And by that I mean not just showing you how to tie some patterns, but also covering rope selection, safety, and most critically what to do with your partner once they are restrained!
This was what I was lacking.
I knew how to restrain someone’s wrists, but I wanted ideas of different BDSM scenes I could build around those ties. In my other life I’ve built a few video courses so I thought to myself – why shouldn’t I create that course!
I don’t profess to be a professional rigger or a Shibari master by any means, but that’s what would make my course unique.
I could call out the pitfalls of learning rope bondage I went through as they are fresh in my memory.
I could also bring my knowledge of D/s into the mix to give the course more of a practical, sexual play angle. And so I set to work laying out a course structure, writing scripts, and choosing what ties and knots would be useful to teach.
I cut out all the fluff which you really don’t need to know.I ONLY included the practical.
I wanted to create a course to take a complete beginner all the way to mastery in as short a time as possible. Filming began towards the middle of 2020 and is now nearing its end.
Meanwhile in parallel, I’ve been busy editing all the footage and making it look great. I’m really, really hoping to have it released in time for Valentine’s Day 2021.
Building a private students member area
As I started researching the tech I’d need to deliver the rope bondage course online, it struck me that learning in isolation isn’t the best experience.
Throughout the course people will have questions, opinions and want to share their experiences, be that struggles or successes.
I wanted a private membership group for all students.
Somewhere they could discuss the course and get advice from myself and fellow participants.
I can imagine it being lots of fun to see people uploading photos of the ties they’ve successfully completed and everyone leaving congratulatory comments, inspiring the entire group.
And so the seed was sown…
I realised there’s potential for an entire D/s community.
Not only for those enrolled in my online Dom sub courses, but for anyone who wants to be involved. The big sites like Fetlife are a little dated and cater for all aspects of BDSM.
Plus they have no online learning facility. The community I want to build will be a hybrid of Facebook and Teachable.
Whilst the main focus will be learning, it will also be a place to make connections with fellow dominants and submissives. It will also be a chance for me to interact more with my readers, rather than the website being a one way channel from me to you.
And so, my lovely kinksters, I’m incredibly excited to share with you the news that this community (working title ‘The Community’) is in the process of being built as I type!
It’s looking amazing, even if I do say so myself. I can’t wait to share it with everyone, and I think you’ll love it.
At first I’ll probably give priority to those who purchase my rope bondage course so they have access to the private member’s group in order to test out all the functionality and iron out the wrinkles.
After that I’ll slowly open it up to everyone on mailing list, before making it fully available later in the year.
Looking forward to an amazing 2021
All in all 2021 is shaping up to be a fantastic year for Kinky Events, and my quest to make it the go-to brand for all things D/s and making BDSM more accessible for everyone. If you’re reading this – thanks for your support and being part of the journey.
Have fun and stay Kinky.
