Sofa Plaything (Plus Anal Training)

BDSM ideas. Anal training on the sofa

Moineau had messaged me earlier saying she had accidentally played with herself. I was due to see her that evening, and she knew a punishment was on its way.

One of the Dom sub rules we have is that she must tell me what she was fantasising about when she masturbates and orgasms.

In this particular instance, she’s been watching a porn video. I asked for the link and opened it to see for myself.

I enjoy understanding what turns my sub on. I believe it’s part of being a good Dom, and have spoken about this in many other articles.

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She was relaxed, anticipating, unable to see what he was going to do next.

Anyway, back to the story…

The video was of a guy sitting on the floor (clothed). A naked girl was laying across his thighs, her back slightly arched, pushing her bum into the air.

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It was positioned nicely so he could reach between her legs. Her face wasn’t visible, but you could see her cute body from lower back to upper thigh, stretched out over him. She was relaxed, anticipating, unable to see what he was going to do next.

He proceeded to play with her, using a variety of sex toys.

Anal beads, butt plugs, vibrators and dildos were rubbed over her, inserted, and both of her holes were beautifully played with.

I enjoyed the video, and could clearly see why Moineau had got turned on watching it.

That evening, after her punishment (facing the wall for 20 minutes), it was playtime.

She was already naked (as a good girl should be when she visits my flat).

On my lap

I sat in the middle of the sofa and beckoned her over, instructing her to lie across my lap. With a cushion under her tummy and one under her head, she looked as though she was preparing for a massage.

I’d already prepared a chair with a towel, lubricant, and some of my favourite items from the toy drawer in my bedroom. It was within easy reach so I didn’t have to move during our play session.

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The TV was on, and as I watched, I began running my hand up and down her body, massaging her head through her hair, feeling the fleshy roundness of her bum, lightly massaging the muscles of her lower back, and running my fingers over her bum and down between her legs.

I started with a set of weighted balls, designed to go inside the vagina. They are heavy and move around as you walk. Being prone, and not moving, there wasn’t much sensation from them, aside from the feeling of being full.

Bring out the beads

After some light clit stoking, it was time for the anal beads. I fed them one by one into her, managing all the way up to the second to the last one. She’d never had beads inside her before, but all her anal training with the plugs had clearly been paying off. They went in easily as she continued to relax.

Once in, I slowly pulled them back out, each bead creating a wave of sensation.

Between all of the fun with the toys, I would continually return to light rubbing of her clit, keeping a constant state of arousal and pleasure going, but not enough to make her come or get her too worked up. This was more of a relax and training session than anything else. Her being there for my pleasure, just an object for me to amuse myself with.

And I was thoroughly enjoying myself. Not only did I have a great view, but the dominant side of me was enjoying her submission, and allowing herself to be used.

I had to turn the TV off after a while because (being a man), I couldn’t concentrate on two things at once!

Anal training

We hadn’t tried anal sex together, but she’d been wearing butt plugs around her house during the day as part of her anal training to become my sex slave. I was keen to see how effective this training had been, and how close we were to her being able to take my cock.

Icicles No 73 Mini Realistic Dildo Glass Butt Plug
Not the butt plug we used but looks fun nonetheless

First I tried the largest butt plug in the set of four she’d brought with her. She’d worn it before, but I’d never had the pleasure of inserting this particular one. She took it well. After some light teasing with a bullet vibrator on her clit, the plug came out.

A plug doesn’t move, and so doesn’t simulate what a real cock would feel like during anal. I needed to see if wearing the plugs for the past few weeks had got her to the stage where a small dildo could be moved in and out and feel pleasurable.

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I took a thin penis-shaped dildo, around half the thickness of my cock, and slowly inserted it about three inches.

As I rubbed her clit to help her relax, I moved the dildo in and out an inch or so either way. There was no pain, and she seemed to be responding well. Her anal training programme was clearly working!

Not wanting to overdo it for her first anal dildo session, I withdrew it, replacing it with one of the smaller butt plugs I know she could comfortably wear for hours.

Drawing to a close

The session ended when the timer on the oven went off (dinner’s ready!).

By this point, she still had the weighted balls in her, as well as the plug. That’s how she remained as we ate dinner together on the sofa – filled.

All in all, it was a fun hour of play.

She found it relaxing, as well as arousing. I got to use and have fun with her body (something that turns us both on), and we moved up one rung on the anal training ladder.

Neither of us orgasmed, but it wasn’t that type of a play session. It was an example of a soft, relaxing, sensual, caring, yet also objectifying and sex slave type of dynamic.

If you are in a d/s relationship and as a sub you enjoy being used sexually, then I highly recommend trying this naughty activity with your Dom.

And if you’re a Dom, why not text your sub a dominant command right now, telling her to strip off when she gets home, because you are going to help her relax after a long, hard day at work.

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kari

I look forward to these relaxed sessions of play, arousal, My Dom learning my body…. sensuous time together.

Sarah

Chief,
I am learning so much from reading on your site. I am excited and nervous to enter this lifestyle. I have been researching for months on this topic. Thank you for all your insight.

Kara

I’ve enjoyed anal beads or Ben Wa balls and have worn them for my fill 8 hour shift as a senior aide working on my feet for the whole shift. My personal pleasure and stimulation…

IdgjyAnne

Wish you presented more examples of a female dom and male sub. We’re just beginning, but I am definitely the Dom.
Thank you! 💝

Reid

This is absolutely incredible. Time and time again, you provide quality content with creativity. This goes above and beyond what is traditional and stereotypical set by movies and other main stream D/s beliefs. This is a great bonding session to remember, thank you!