There’s something kinkier about sex outside the bedroom than in it.
So when my new shag pile rug arrived for the living room, I decided it needed a kinky christening.
Below is how the BDSM scene played out, along with some tips, which I hope will inspire you to try out new things and make your sex life even better.
You don’t have to follow it exactly (getting creative is part of the thrill of being a Dom) but if you’re new it highlights how a scene can escalate over time, with translations between positions and use of toys.
Setting the scene
For this scene you’ll need a sofa, a rope, a leather flogger, a butt plug (see my sex toy list for ideas), some lube and a willing sub.
Let’s get going…
1. Tie her hands
Sit on the sofa (naked) and have your sub kneel on the carpet in front of you (also naked, or wearing whatever you want her to wear). Tie her hands behind her back with the rope.
I tried a couple of different ways. Either have her place her hands directly behind her back and tie them there. Or have her hands tied palm together in front of her, and then raised overhead and bent at the elbow.
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2. Have her suck
Grab her hair and guide her forwards. Have her suck you for some time whilst you relax and enjoy the show. Be gentle at first as you are both warming up.
If you sub is experienced, she’s consented and she enjoys it, you can get tougher as the scene get going.
For example:
- Hold her hair with one hand and place the other around her throat, tightening and loosening the pressure as needed.
- Have her take your entire length then hold her head down for a period of time (warning – be very sure you monitor her face closely for signs of suffocation and extreme discomfort. Remember this must be consensual and have been practised beforehand). Do not hold this position for more than a few seconds, and afterwards fully withdraw to allow her to catch her breath.
- Move her head forcefully up and down your shaft with your hands using her hair.
- Thrust your hips in time with her head movements.
Continue for as long as you wish. When you’re turned on and hard, proceed.
3. Tie her up
Get up from the sofa and place some cushions under her knees. She’ll be kneeling for a while, and you’re about to tie her legs in a way which’ll add even more pressure onto the floor.
Push her forwards so her chest is resting on the sofa whilst her knees remain on the floor.
Take the remainder of the rope (which is still tied around her wrists) and loop it around her left ankle and then around her left thigh. In doing so pull the ankle to the hamstring. You should end up with her left leg forming a V shape. Her foot pointing to the ceiling, close to her bum, and her knee remaining on the floor.
Now thread the rope back to the loop at her wrists, and back down to the other leg. Repeat the same pattern, tying her ankle to her upper thigh.
Don’t make any of the ropes too tight. The thighs have some pretty important blood flows in them which you don’t want to cut off!
Your sub should now be face down on the sofa, ankles tied so she can’t extend her legs, and knees resting on the floor, slightly apart giving you access to all of her.
At this point I stuffed her panties in her mouth for added effect.
Note: once again, there’s a risk here. You are already putting her in a difficult to breathe position being face down. Blocking airways is risky. Only do it if you know what you are doing and have been playing with your sub for some time.
With her hands tied and mouth covered, there’s no way for her to give a verbal or gestural safe word. So, place an object in her hand to hold which she can throw if she’s in trouble (a golf ball is ideal as it is heavy and makes a noise when it hits the floor).
4. Flog her
Her ass is now in a perfect position for spanking.
Smack her with your hand, and graduate to flogging her with a leather flogger (depending upon how much pain your sub can tolerate and what she enjoys).
I’m not a sadist so I like to intersperse periods of clitoral rubbing between bouts of 5-10 swats with the flogger. This provides some relief when I see her wincing and nicely anchors the pleasure to the pain, and releases some endorphins post spanking adrenaline.
5. Plug her
Once she’s nicely aroused and a bit squirmy, insert a silicone butt plug. Choose a size to suit her. I went with a medium one, as anal stimulation wasn’t really the point of the scene. I just wanted her to feel full for what came next.
If you are new to anal, I recommend my anal training guide.
6. Fuck her
Kneel down behind her and have your way. She’s all tied up with nowhere to go.
I alternated between slow and fast, shallow and deep fucking. I also reached around to massage her clit during the slow fucking.
During the hard fucking I either held her waist, or her wrists (don’t pull too hard or you’ll damage her shoulders).
Continue for as long as you wish, or until you sense your sub experiencing body fatigue from the kneeling position or rope reducing circulation.
7. Talk dirty to her
Use dirty talk to amplify the situation and help her orgasm. Because of the dynamic we have, I tend to focus either on the “Good Girl” story:
- She’s being a good girl by allowing me to use her body for my pleasure
- She’s been doing her training and it’s showing
- She’s allowed to have my cock and an orgasm as a reward for something she did for me earlier in the day
- How well she’s doing her job as my little fuck toy
Other times I’ll touch on consensual non-consent storylines, using themes such as:
- Now you’re all tied up you can’t get away even if you wanted to
- Your only purpose is to be used
- I don’t care if you’re enjoying it, because I am
- You’re such a bad girl for enjoying both your little holes filled at the same time
Remember – this is ROLEPLAY! I absolutely DO care if she’s enjoying it. We both know objectifying her in this way is an act solely for the purpose of the BDSM scene, but it’s an act which turns us both on. Mutual respect and communication must always be present.
8. Have her present for you
After the fucking I still hadn’t come. So I untied her, sat back down on the sofa and instructed her to face away from me on fours. I love this rear view of her. It’s incredibly primal and a huge turn on. Especially the fact she’s just there presenting her body for my pleasure is an added turn on.
If I had to redo this scene I’d have her present for me after she sucked me, before I tied her up. I could also be an opportunity to have her practise her slave positions, with me giving the commands and her showing how well she can execute them.
9. Aftercare
After a session like this, get back on the sofa, wrap her in a blanket, give her hugs, talk to her, whatever you know she likes for aftercare.
Unfortunately after our session Moineau has to dash off so we didn’t get a chance for aftercare. She experienced a bit of Sub Drop later that evening as a result. It was quite an intense scene!
Summary of the scene
What makes it so much fun is:
- It’s one the floor, in the living room (away from the typical bedroom sex stereotypes).
- She’s lower than me. What I mean by this is she is kneeling and I’m sitting, which highlights the power dynamic.
- She’s restrained, ready to be used (which we both enjoy) for my pleasure. This helps her relax, because she doesn’t have to do anything or make any decisions. I’m in control.
- She gets a nice spanking midway, giving her a hit of adrenaline and endorphins, making her wet for the fucking she knows is coming.
- She’s filled (butt plug and cock combo)
- As I’m behind her, she doesn’t know exactly what I’m going to do her.
Sounds hot doesn’t it! If you read this and got a little turned on then you absolutely need to show it to your partner and give it a go.
Best of luck!
