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SINFUL SHIBARI
The Sinful Shibari programme is a step-by-step method to learn rope bondage for sexual play, designed for those in D/s dynamics.
If you’ve read my other stuff, you’ll know that I’m not the type of hardcore rigger that gets super turned on simply by tying them up with rope (probably due to my more caregiving style of dominance), but I do enjoy playing with my sub AFTER she is tied up because it has free use vibes.
Moineau is a bit of a rope bunny, and I love learning new things, so I decided to experiment.
I was also inspired from research earlier in the week into the best uses of anal hooks. After browsing Reddit for some interesting pictures of these metal toys being used, it spurred my on to practise my rope work, because anal hooks need to be tied in place to something (hair, bed, ceiling).
(I’d just ordered an anal hook seeing as Moineau is now able to take me and plugs very comfortably through all her anal training. This seemed like the next stage and upping the ante slightly!)
Whilst I waited for the hook to arrive, I thought I better up my rope bondage skills in preparation.
I had a few things I wanted to try.
The first was a frog tie and the second was having her standing, attached to the ceiling unable to move very far (this will make for some interesting predicament bondage with the anal hook).
The prone frog tie
First up, the frog tie.
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I had her kneel in the living room, then wrapped one length of rope around her shin and thigh, so she couldn’t straighten her leg. I repeated this on her other leg.
I set out my Liberator Wedge in front of her (it’s a wedge shaped firm foam cushion for sex) the long end by her knees, then pushed her forwards so her body lay face down on it.
Due to the rope tied around her legs, she ended with her feet pointing towards the ceiling.
I’d already cuffed her hands behind her back, and now proceeded to stuff her panties in her mouth.
I placed a golf ball in one of her hands, instructing her to drop it should she want the scene to stop. With no ability to touch me or verbally communicate, a non-verbal safe word is essential. I’d hear the golf ball hit the wooden floor even if I wasn’t looking and could quickly release her.
As an added bonus, I attached one of the free ends of the rope around her legs to nearby objects in order to pull her knees apart and expose her fully for my viewing pleasure.
After checking she was comfortable, I was left to decide what to do next. Options included get a drink, watch some TV, spank her or tease her with fingers.
I opted to the spanking option because I wanted the practise.
I warmed her up with my hand, to a point where it was becoming too painful for me, then switch to the leather flogger.
I hit her with close to my full force (not immediately, I built up over several minutes), standing over her as she lay on the ramp, striking her ass repeatedly. It’s the hardest impact play I’ve given anyone since I started being a Dom. She winced occasionally, and when she did I would back off.
After many minutes of repeated flogging, I massaged her head and stoked her back. Her eyes were closed and she looked very relaxed. I wondered if she was in subspace.
After massaging her for around 5 minutes, I wanted to try the second pose I’d been thinking.
Standing, collared, attached to ceiling
I felt a bit mean moving her from her relaxed face down position, but eventually got her standing, untying the leg restraints in order to do so (but keeping her cuffs on.
She’d been wearing a collar all this time (a thick leather play collar). I threaded the rope through one of the D-rings and looped the other end through a bar on the ceiling (part of a window), then down to tie it off on the central chain of the wrist cuffs.
With added tension she was forced to choose between lifting her hands higher up her back to release the upwards pull on the collar, or to have her hands in a more natural, lower position resulting in more tension on her neck.
(It should be noted there was never enough tension in either position to result in strangulation, I kept an eye on her, and there were scissors close by just in case. I also used a couple of slip knots for quick release if something were to go wrong, because ultimately this is a risky activity).
To top it off, I took the second rope and fashioned a crude chest harness out of it.
I’m not gonna lie, the rope work was sloppy. Definitely substance over style. But I was happy with the result. She was secure, unable to do anything except stand in position (although she could be spun around), and her body was accessible should I have chosen to use it.
At this point I should mention that bondage in porn and books can often be portrayed as devoid of feeling, performed in concrete dungeons, where the dominant has little connection to his sub.
That’s a perfectly acceptable way to play, but it isn’t the only style, and certainly isn’t my style. I like to try and maintain a connection with my sub during play, hence why interspersed with the impact play and winding rope around her body, I took the time to massage her, lightly stroke her, and kiss her softly, checking in on her.
For some this might ruin the scene, but for me it enhances it.
I love the idea of creating and holding a space which is a delightful juxtaposition of detached objectification and free use, with an undercurrent or tenderness, playfulness, and softness, where each rises and falls in an unpredictable cadence.
I sat on the sofa for a minute admiring the view.
The prone frog tie position was no doubt more relaxing for her than being forced to stand, and she could have remained in it longer. Maybe next time I’ll leave her tied up for longer as I and watch a show.
Overall it was a fun evening. Whilst we’ve engaged in little bits of bondage here and there, this was the longest session we’d done.
It didn’t get me doing sexually, but it was a way of connecting by doing an activity which emphasised the dominant and submissive dynamic.
