E42: A new sub discusses her experiences 3 months after introducing BDSM into an 11-year relationship

Chief and Moineau sit down with Liz who recently introduced D/s into an existing long-term relationship. With humour and candidness, Liz shares their initial steps, challenges, and the profound impact of BDSM on their connection and communication.

From confronting fears and preconceptions to utilising practical tools like the sex menu for negotiating desires, this episode is a testament to the transformative power of open dialogue and trust in rekindling intimacy.

Join us for an enlightening discussion that demystifies the transition into a D/s lifestyle, offering insights and encouragement for those curious about the path of sexual exploration and deepened partnership.

Key timestamps

[00:00:26] Liz discusses beginning their D/s journey and overcoming challenges related to depression and medication.
[00:03:21] Chief and Liz reflect on how D/s dynamics can revive intimacy in long-term relationships.
[00:04:30] Introduction of the sex menu as a transformative tool for couples.
[00:06:02] Liz shares the initial conversation with Tom about exploring a D/s relationship, highlighting the importance of communication.
[00:07:59] Transitioning from minimal communication about sex to frequent, open dialogues.
[00:12:34] Liz describes the liberating aspect of submission in her otherwise dominant life roles.
[00:14:17] Discussion on the gradual introduction and evolution of D/s dynamics in a relationship.
[00:15:22] Homework assignments as a method for exploring and expressing desires within the D/s context.
[00:18:40] Overcoming a hiccup in a scene and the importance of safe words and aftercare.
[00:23:20] Liz shares the positive changes and deeper connection in her relationship since embracing D/s, encouraging open discussions about sex and desires.
[00:29:14] Surprises and adjustments made after filling out the sex menu.
[00:32:39] Liz emphasizes the importance of overcoming fear and engaging in open communication with partners.
[00:38:14] Looking forward to the future of their D/s dynamic and exploring new activities together.
[00:41:48] Final thoughts: The significance of communication and not being afraid to discuss desires and boundaries with partners.

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