Submissive Primer: Everything you need to know as a beginner sub

A 7-week, learn at your own page digital course designed for people who want to explore their submissive side…

  • Gain the confidence you need as a beginner male or female sub
  • Avoid the common pitfalls beginner submissives make
  • Figure out if being a submissive is for you
  • Engage in dominance and submission play in a safe and consensual way
  • Communicate effectively with existing or new partners about your desires

Course overview

This course is designed for men or women who are interested in exploring their submissive side, inside or outside the bedroom. It is suitable whether you are single, or currently in a relationship. The skills taught will provide you with practical steps to introduce elements of dominance and submission (part of BDSM) into your sex live, or everyday relationship if you so choose.

Learning objectives

You’ll learn what it means to be a submissive, and how to uncover the type of submissive you wish to be. You’ll learn a simple way to figure out what turns you on, and how to discuss limits, desires, kinks, and boundaries with current or future partners. You’ll also learn how to handle difficult conversations, such as how to bring up a conversation about kink with your partner.

If you have ever struggled with these questions, then this course is for you:

  • How do I incorporate aspects of dominance and submission into my sex life?
  • What type of submissive am I?
  • What should I expect as a new submissive?
  • How do I know if I am doing it right?
  • Does a Dom teach a new submissive?
  • How do I overcome first time nerves?
  • How do I bring up the topic with my partner if they are new to it too?
  • What can my Dom ask me to do?
  • How do I keep myself safe?

After completing you course you’ll:

  • Know what is expected of a beginner sub and what a typical D/s dynamic looks like
  • How to communicate with your partner more effectively, and express your needs more openly
  • Have hotter, kinkier sex (if that’s what you want!)
  • Feel confident in your role as a sub
  • Have a key set of principles to abide by
  • Have a strong foundation of Dom sub knowledge from which to build your ideal dynamic

Course structure

7 digital modules. The course consists of a series of 7 modules delivered online via pre-recorded video lessons and exercises which you complete in your own time. The models cover everything from understanding what it means to be a submissive, right the way to walking you through your first BDSM scene.

1 module per week. The course is designed to be completed in sequence, one module per week. Each module is released at the beginning of the week, and you have 7 days to complete it. Completing the module will take approximately 1-2 hours per week of your time.

Videos, exercises, and worksheets. Each module takes about 30 mins to an hour to complete the videos, but for real impact, you should aim to spend around one hour per module doing the exercises.

Community. Learning as a group is more fun and immersive than learning alone. That’s why there will be other people completing the same module with you during the week. You’ll have the option of asking questions and getting feedback from other people who enrolled at the same time, and be able to share experiences. For your privacy, this can be done anonymously.

The Modules

Module 1: What & Why

Understand what drives your desire to be a submissive, what the role entails, and what type of sub suits you best.

Module 2: Likes & Limits

Knowing what you don’t want to do is as important as what you do want to do. Explore how to uncover your likes and limits.

Module 3: Communication

How do you communicate your desires to your partner? Learn some practical tips and techniques to avoid conflict and gain confidence in sharing your wants.

Module 4: Safety

Learn how to practise submission in a safe way.

Module 5: Expectations vs Reality

A Dom/sub dynamic may not be the same as what you envision in your head. Learn what a real-life dynamic looks like, and how to fit play into your everyday life.

Module 6: Your First Scene

In this module you’ll get tips for your first scene to ensure everything goes smoothly. You’ll also get a sample scene to try in case you’re stuck for ideas.

Module 7: What Next?

Now you know the basics, what’s next? Learn techniques to enhance your submission, and keep learning.

Why learn from us?

The relaxed Dom/sub dynamic

We’ve been in a Dom sub dynamic a number of years. Moineau was a new submissive when she met Chief, and has been through the journey of beginner to experience sub. Together, Chief and Moineau know what the challenges you face will be, and the tools and techniques to help overcome them, and build the perfect dynamic for you.

We have the knowledge and experience to help you create the Dom/sub dynamic you’ve always fantasised about, and have kinkier, hotter sex.